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Let's just open the old wounds

Breakingnow
Breakingnow

I'm already emotionally drained. I have started to document everything I need for the divorce. 


When I left my husband, everyone told me to save every message. I thought that was pointless but I did it anyway. I'm glad I did so I can figure out how often he has actually had the kids. 


At the same time I hate it. Having to live through the text messages the first time is hard enough. But now I'm re-reading them and it just brings everything back. 


I fucking hate that he still has power over me. I hate that he can still make me feel like a horrible person for leaving. 


I don't want to continue documenting 6 months worth of basically hate. So what do I do to help with that pain... I find a beer to start the numbing process. 

serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Hugs and thoughts. It's stressful but I hated to re read them like reliving the pain. In my case they didn t help and fortunately he has since calmed down and not so hateful.
good2go2001
good2go2001
Im so sorry you are going threw all this. You are so smart to document EVERYTHING! My daughter is going threw this and let me tell you documentation does help got to have a paper trail! My daughter ended up having to go threw the process to get a domestic abuse no contact order--- text messages, recorded phone calls, and video tapes of the exchanges all helped to show a judge just how bad things really are. You are right it is emotionally draining watching what its doing to my granbabies is traumatic .... wish i had words of wisdom to help but all i can say is you are not alone and keep your head up and held high.
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