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So husband is pretty upset at me right now. I outed him and his "friend" coworker to their respective supervisors. They are both in the military and inappropriate relationship or communication is dealt different than in an outside job. Relationship developed while both were deployed overseas for a year and "friendship" continued for a whole year since they've been back and they are both about to leave again for another year.
He said he developed feelings for her and she for him but they haven't been physical so he is mad cause he haven't done anything wrong, that I made it bigger than what it is even though he did asked for a divorce because of it.
He wants to leave the house until he leaves in about 2-3 weeks and I just begged him not to, to stay with me until he leaves and then I will get my life together after he leaves.He don't want to cause he said it won't be fair to me but I told them that I didnt care, to let me make my own mistakes. So rejected, with my dignity gone, my self respect hanging by the door I feel like I won the stupidest wife award.
Ahhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He said he developed feelings for her and she for him but they haven't been physical so he is mad cause he haven't done anything wrong, that I made it bigger than what it is even though he did asked for a divorce because of it.
He wants to leave the house until he leaves in about 2-3 weeks and I just begged him not to, to stay with me until he leaves and then I will get my life together after he leaves.He don't want to cause he said it won't be fair to me but I told them that I didnt care, to let me make my own mistakes. So rejected, with my dignity gone, my self respect hanging by the door I feel like I won the stupidest wife award.
Ahhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I don't really know how to label this but I having a rough week and I can't say it's one thing.... I have a lot on my plate which is nothing new and I try to cope in many positive ways and do but I still have my moments.My kids more so my daughters talk to me about everything which I know it's cause of comfort and we are close.... however I really struggle with the venting about their dad which...
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
You did NOTHING wrong. You are NOT a stupid wife!! Get that out of your head.
hugs...
He kicked me out , moved her in within days.
Yep. It's still cheating. Mine says he didn't sleep with her until I left. Right.......sure..............
You did the right thing. Fighting for your marriage is always the right thing.
I can't prove that they didn't but it sounds more like an emotional affair, he said he fell in love with her, that they bonded, that their friendship just grew and they got close. He said he is confused, he don't know what to do, one day he wants a divorce and the next he wants to stay, right now he is pretty upset and wants out. I don't even know what to do cause he is leaving, I couldn't do anything while he was here just imagine when he is gone....... I think it's over and that's why I'm clinging so bad to him his last few days here even though he don't want to cause he can't stop thinking about her.
(((((HUGS)))))
An emotional affair affects a lot more military marriages than is acknowledged in public.
You are a wonderful wife!
The road to healing is a long one, no matter how the emotional affair is resolved.
By giving the problem back to him, telling him he can stay, is the best one, also the hardest one to stay strong with, so vent here!
An emotional affair can help to bring the marriage to a stronger point.
Hold your head high!
Keep all of your unit communication to basic subjects.
Do not add to the rumors, they run rampant, whether or not you say a word, so leave that on hubby's problem list.
Hang in there! You are not alone!