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Just had another bomb dropped on me.

HeaveToo
HeaveToo
Went into work and got another bomb dropped on me today. At this point I am probably going to start looking for another job. I can no longer deal with what the place I work at is putting me through. It is ridicilious that you go out and do a good job and they have nothing better to do then Monday Morning Quarterback all of your decisions and find things wrong when they try to look for things to find wrong. If you can't find anything that is concrete they use abstract things and find fault with you.

This year has been one hell of a year for me. I have lost my house to my wife, I lost my wife, had all kinds of health problems, and now my job is in parrel now.

At this point not much else can go wrong and I know that I am hitting rock bottom. I am wondering what I will do to sustain a living as I am not going to stick around my workplace and let the crucify me.

I think that I am going to pull out of my lease on my house and try to find a job close to my home town. I am unsure what will happen from here.

Guys, I am doing okay right now and I realize this is something that I must deal with, just like the divorce that is almost done. I should have left my job and found a new one last summer when things were better but I thought that I would try to stick it out and try to make things work out. I knew that I had a bullseye on me but I thought that I would try to get through it and avoid any other drastic change.

I haven't begun to worry too much about this because I haven't started looking for a job. I just hope that I can find something quick and I don't have to take too big of a paycut.
HeaveToo
HeaveToo
If I end up getting fired it will make it harder to get another job. There is not a union in Virginia for the Police.
HeaveToo
HeaveToo
The other thing that was kicking my butt in the job is that the whole thing about dealing with the back office stresses me out, big time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Are you sure you don't have my job? Here is how i found out my job was over. When my immediate suppervisor had more than 10 bad things about me and hardly 2 good ones. Of course the bad things were not substanciated. My advice, a job is just a job, you may want to take some time for yourself if you can afford. Just to clear your mind. Some stressful situations in life, like my latest struggle with my health, I can do without any additional stress. Big hug!!!!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Come to Minnesota. We have nice places to sail. The Mississsipi starts here. One can walk across it; I have. Nothing wrong with a cop with experience in this heavily litigated environment. They welcome a new perspective and A good mind; especially in Saint Paul. We have the best health care anywhere in Minnesota. Learn to ski. You are used to snow. Learn how to have fun in it. Come to Minnesota. Plan a trip in your head where you start near the head of the Mississippi and go all the way to the ocean and beyond. (Okay always wanted to take that Mark Twain type trip) It's al good.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Here is what I learned. Emotions do not belong to the job, but to the person. If you are taking things personally, I advise you to step aside. Take a stress leave. It is my experience that regardless the crap you come across (and some are just the most amzing cra you haver seen), you should be able to approach your job with a cool mind. If not, meaning things are getting to you, I believe it is best to step aside and put your health first. Nothing in the job should be personal, and you should be able to unwind within every day. Meaning, you should be getting enough rest and have a fresh start most days, and leave the job things in the job. If not, seek for what you need. If you need sleep, talk to your dr and see the options. If you need time off, use your vacations. Try to listen to your body and mind. If you are getting too stressed, seek for what you need in that end. my 2 cents
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow, sorry to hear all this.... Hope things get better Quick!
Thriver
Thriver
Job stress can be horrible. I hope you find a way to enjoy life again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well don' t wait to quit or get fired get out there and start looking, seriously. I'm in Michigan and all I can tell you is I have been unemployed for three months, and everything is laying off here. Circuit City, Ford, GM, Chrysler, MGM GRAND, DART, HENRY FORD HOSPITALS, UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN HOSPITAL all are the state's biggest employers who in the last month lost 800,000 jobs. No shit. Michigan is going to implode first. It'll be like watching a car accident for the rest of the states. Are unemployment level in my small city is at 65%. Thank god for savings and family.
HeaveToo
HeaveToo
Wow...my BP is up again. I am seriously contemplating going to the doctor to get her to put me out of work again. I have had this issue before and my BP goes through the roof whenever i get stressed. I was at 179/94 this evening. Last time I was dealing with all of this crap it had gotten up to 220/110.

Whenever I get stressed out my Blood Pressure goes through the roof and medication can't bring it down.

It is very tempting to try and get disability at this point. I have already suffered one heart attack and anytime I get stressed I get high blood pressure. Sounds like a reasonable thought.
deleted_user
deleted_user
((((((((Hugs)))))))) Heave. I'm sorry for what you're going through.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Heave I am sorry you are going through this and that BP is not good. You really do need to take it easy and not Stress so much or you will be heading towards heart attack #2. Please take of yourself if you need time off go to the Dr and ask for it...You need to think of yourself. HUGSSSS
deleted_user
deleted_user
Huh? Are you having any pain in your left chest?
deleted_user
deleted_user
No matter what, DON"T QUIT. Act in your best interest, not out of pride. Call the union in, and stress leave. Then you can think more clearly. If you quit, you give them exactly what they want. Get from them what YOU want. No matter what, don't quit. Quitting means giving up all your rights. Don't give up your rights, NEVER. Even if you are the last one standing, make it count, and make the best use of what is available to you. Take the stress leave to look into your rights with the union. DO NOT QUIT!!! protect your rights. Don't go down without a fight. Stand up for yourself, and find the means to do it protecting your rights.
HeaveToo
HeaveToo
Nah...not any chest pain. Got a killer headache though. I swear that they want to put me in an early grave or they want to drive me out of the work environment. Something has got to give at this point.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, don't drink if your B/P is that high, you def will be in a early grave, are you on any B/P meds? What about Nitro SL?