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It sucks knowing you're single and your ex is a re

Screwed_Up
Screwed_Up

Its bad enough knowing I was dumped by the woman I was with for 8 years. But the most demoralizing feeling is knowing Im single and lonely, while shes having the time of her life, seemingly, in her rebound relationship. Thinking about the woman I was with and loved having sex with another guy now is a shitty feeling. Im trying to work on me, and go through the grief process, but it sucks. I just wonder are people like my ex who jump right into another relationship really happy, or will it just turn out worse for them because they are masking the pain from the previous relationship. It just makes me sick at the thought of her with somebody else already. I must admit, I hope she ends up in  misery. Sometimes I think I should just find a rebound myself, but then I know my heart just wouldn't be into it? Does anybody have thoughts on this whole situation and rebound relationships?

broken234
broken234
People who feel the need to go from one relationship to another are not really happy. They are incapable of just being alone and happy with themselves. My ex is the same way. Left our 17 year marriage for OW and now he is miserable. He is incapable of being alone and content with himself. Let me ask you this, Does your ex have abandonment issues?
You work on yourself and don't be too quick to jump into another relationship because your ex did. You will be in a more stable relationship when you are ready. Don't worry about what your ex is doing. She may seem happy on the outside but is likely unhappy on the inside.
Screwed_Up
Screwed_Up
Yes, I believe she has abandonment issues. She never knew or met her father for starters. I always had caught her on dating apps and such, she would say it was just for attention. She just seems like ahe needs attention from men at all times whether it e emotional or sexual. And yeah I know i need to work on me.
Lostinutah
Lostinutah
If she was on dating apps it was not just for attention . I was married for 21 years she now lives with my brother in my head parents house so I know a little about how you feel. The only thing you can do is move on you don't want her back she is toxic.
ifinallygetit
ifinallygetit
My ex boyfriend was the same. He can never been alone. Always needs someone with him. I just found out he is engaged again to a woman he has known for 7 months. This will be his third marriage. It stung initially but as my friends reminded me...I dodged a bullet.

You deserve so much more than that. Best wishes my friend
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
You wrote "And yeah I know I need to work on me." Don't just brush that advice off. I've seen your other posts and you are 39, have two young sons, plus you are dealing with probation from a felony DWI... so yes, you DO need to work on yourself, for you and for your kids sake, so don't just brush that advice off. Are you sober? Don't worry about your ex or spend time thinking about if you should go out and have"rebound sex". Work on getting your stuff together so that you can have a better life (without her). What she is doing or not doing now is not important. Sorry if I sound harsh, but come on, you need to get your life together... You can do this!
Osheana
Osheana
The more you focus on her,the longer it will take you to get Over this
hump. Every time you think of her with the other guy- you are self torturing
your self- so you have to consciously not re- live that thought process over
and over and over and over and over (in your mental)

Like when it happens(you mind drifts to her forcibly stop the thought.
Yes it is hard as hell. Yes you will probably have to forcibly stop your
mind from drifting 100 times a day- At First, but you have to commit
to yourself. It is called Loving yourself through this process.

And per your post- You being single/alone- dont forget that The most profound relationship that you will EVER have on this earth is with oneself.
If you feel that you are ALONE just because you are not with SOMEONE please make sure that the relationship that you have with yourself has been
deeply cultivated. Hugs- Yes and I reiterate GirlinCali "You Can Do This".

Thanks for sharing.

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