I am sorry to hear this, I wish I had some advice or words of wisdom for you. I am posting to say, someone is listening, your voice is heard and someone cares.

Thank you....I just don't know how to move on. I have tried and gotten 3 steps ahead and now I have falling 5 back. What do I really need to do to get past this...... I just can't imagine living my life like this. I need to find some inner peace.

anyone that wants another in limbo for their purposes is very selfish
cutting ties will hurt
so will the aftermath
you will make it through
the longer you wait to start...

take care

I know it will hurt, and I Back in November I did cut ties. Went no contact for 2 months and I allowed him back in my life in Febuary. I really thought this was a turning point for us. After last night's convo, he still has no answers. I can't believe I allowed this to happen again.

I am just crushed all over again. I am trying to hold it together, but I just feel lost right now

I'm sorry for your pain. Don't be to hard on yourself, I think all of us might've try a second, a third and even a fourth time hoping for things to work out. Inner peace will come.,
Stay strong.

I feel broken too. Not much helpful words just that I sending thoughts and prayers.

Its nice to know I am not alone.......

I have gone back to my ex too many times to count. He wants to remain in limbo too. He can't commit to being with me but he can't commit to being without me. It's not fair to me.

I don't know how to stop it either. I'm seeing a hypnotherapist on Saturday. Maybe that will help.

I know it's hard to cut ties after spending most of your adult life with someone, but it needs to be done. I understand you want to be there in his time of need, but you need to ask yourself would he do the same for you? Where is the new woman now? It's her job to comfort him. If she won't do that for him, well then he picked the wrong woman. Stringing you along and keeping you in limbo is wasting your time. Time that could be spent on yourself, and possibly missing opportunity to spent it with someone that truly appreciates being with you.

@Lamar, I know you are so right. This OW.. lives out state, and I am not completly sure she evens knows that he has terminal cancer. Its a hard situation to be in when there are children who are looking to you as the pillar of strenth.... IDK what to do

You are in a very unique and hard situation with the terminal cancer diagnosis. Ultimately, you have to decide if you want to be in a relationship where the love and caring is not reciprocated. He is a very selfish person though. As far as the children, just be honest with them. You not being there doesn't make you a bad person. You are divorced and it sounds like it wasn't your choice. Sorry you are in such a crappy situation! Prayers that you will find peace in your decision.

@lost it is crappy either way you look at it. I stuggle with what I will or won't do everyday. He seems to be more close with me lately, but I know that it is him dealing with his mortality. I guess I need to just look at it as I am helping a friend who has terminal cancer, and leave my feelings at the door when I leave.