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onmymind2000 02/13/2015

Sorry for the less than eloquent title but I just am. I am feeling between being really sad that it all ended this way and then really mad for feeling sad about it.

A part of me says "How dare you do this" to me, and then I feel like a fool again because none of it surprises me. It absolutely does not surprise me she cheated again and it does not surprise me that she set up shop with a new guy before officially dumping me.

Then thinking about that makes me feel pretty sad again. Sad that it happened, sad that I feel sad, sad that who I am or how much I loved and supported her didn't matter. It didn't even warrant her being honest with me.

It's a whole lot of feeling jumbled and confused right now.

ChiTownBear 02/14/2015

for sure it is. back and forth and then sometimes, all at the same time.

hang in there, you'll be back to mad... then sad .. then mad .. again ;)

murphytoronto 02/14/2015

True
Chi town is right

serenityspeaks 02/14/2015

man I am sorry! This really stinks and is not fair:( I have same feelings but not exact same situation at all...I am tired of feeling as I do.

sheemee 02/15/2015

I know at times like these its not much of a comfort but in the long run you are so much better off!!! She did you a favor if that s the kind of character she is how she treats someone who loves her then you dont want her in your life!!! It doesnt seem or feel like it right now but you're lucky you found this out, and obviously she s got issues if she had to have someone lined up before leaving you. Just try to keep moving and let these moments of sadness and anger come and go.........when I'm feeling shitty and low I try to remember the good times dont last and the bad times dont last either lol so just gotta ride it out. Hope you feel better take care of yourself

refurb 02/15/2015

It is not you don't deserve honesty from her,
It is that cheaters can't give honestly because they don't want to know the truth about themselves

onmymind2000 02/15/2015

Refurb - that is a really interesting point. I will give that some thought, for sure.

Thanks man!

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