Hi Crfootball20 not sure of too much going on in your situation ,the details
area little sketchy, but from what you shared- if the relationship is truly over,
and you have internally made peace with this- then you have to continue to
focus on your well being, your healing, your owe this to yourself for going
through so much. It does take time - because right now if it is indeed over,
your heart is really tired of it( the hurt you feel),your mind however keeps playing back repeat scenarios of her.You have to actively CANCEL,DELETE
these thoughts when they pop up in your mental data base and redirect
your thoughts to self healing, moving forward activities hope this little bit helps
Peace, Light Joy- keep focus on this, it gets better

First loves are very powerful. Believe me, I know. I corresponded with you before, and I think what would help now is to stay busy, work on yourself, don't dwell on the "good parts" you two had, but rather that she cheated on you, she put you down (your physique, comparing you to her cheating partner), etc.... and the reason it could take longer to get over her is that you hung on for so long, hoping and trying for things to get back together. It's almost like starting the grieving process right now, today. Or, whenever you have it in your mind that it is finally, really, over for GOOD. The more you hang on, or hold out hope, or see what she's doing online or in real life... etc... the harder it will be to move on. You will get over her. It does take time, but stay busy, keep talking to new people, go out with other girls, and each day you will find yourself thinking about her less and less. It hurts, and it is not easy. You will be okay!

I agree. You need to be proactive in moving on. You cannot linger otherwise you will just continue to suffer. You need to get her out of your thoughts or else you will keep on missing her and thinking endless what ifs. Delete all images and pictures of her, as well as texts, and emails. If you cannot get yourself to do it, move them to a backup. Do the same thing with actual letters and all kinds of mementos, throw them away or put them in a box. I recommended a book about building confidence last time. I hope you had a chance to read it.

As I said last time, “Try not to pin your happiness on someone. Instead, be happy just by being with yourself. We need to learn to be alone once in a while. Learn to enjoy things and activities all by yourself, reading, going to the movies, park or library, taking a long walk.” This might help your confidence and you also need to be healthy physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually because you need to be ready for that girl out there who will truly make you happy.

My marriage was crap the last 5 years, but when she asked for divorce, I could not believe it. Those 6 months after were the worst of my life. But the pain of that sure changed who I am. They made me a much stronger, better person.
The logic of caring for someone who does not care for you does not make sense, but I was just like you. Lots of people ask me why I was so sad such s crappy relationship failed, The sense of it fails me. All I can say is that you do heal, you do get stronger.