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I woke up this morning from a dream that things were great and we were whole again, but now I'm hating my wife. This past 3 day weekend was one of the most emotional weekends since she told me she wanted out of our marriage. Combination of Valentines Day and Presidents Day just made it really tough. We always celebrated Valentines Day and we always took a trip during the Presidents' Day weekend (this time just me and the kids without her). I dedicated 10 years of my life to being a great husband, a loving father (3 of the kids are hers from a previous marriage. I didn't mention this on previous posts because I didn't think it mattered) and an all around family man.
I worked so she can be a stay at home mom while the kids were young. I supported her in all her ventures. I was there for her physically and emotionally when her grandmother passed away. I attended the kids' talent shows, recitals and games when their own biological father didn't. I provided her a comfortable, easy going lifestyle, going on 2 vacations a year (one as a family and the other just the 2 of us) while I worked my ass off. Then, when she decided it was time for her to get a full time job, guess what? I got her an interview, in which she landed the job. I thought we were going to combine incomes to get a bigger house and live the life. Now she's just going rent a home with it.
After all this, she said sorry, she appreciates all I've done for her, but she no longer loves me in a romantic way and wants to end our marriage. We've been civil for the kids but the emotional roller coaster that I'm on is just getting the better of me. I'm trying really hard to be nice and not fly off the handle, because 1, nothing good will come out of flipping out and 2, she said that she still wants me to maintain a good relationship with the kids ever she/they move out. I don't want to give her any reason to think I'm emotionally unstable and take the kids away.
It's just not fair how she can just turn it off just like that. And to think, 3 days before she told me she wanted out, we spent a very romantic weekend get away, kid free. We acted as if we were on our second honeymoon.
Sorry for venting.
I worked so she can be a stay at home mom while the kids were young. I supported her in all her ventures. I was there for her physically and emotionally when her grandmother passed away. I attended the kids' talent shows, recitals and games when their own biological father didn't. I provided her a comfortable, easy going lifestyle, going on 2 vacations a year (one as a family and the other just the 2 of us) while I worked my ass off. Then, when she decided it was time for her to get a full time job, guess what? I got her an interview, in which she landed the job. I thought we were going to combine incomes to get a bigger house and live the life. Now she's just going rent a home with it.
After all this, she said sorry, she appreciates all I've done for her, but she no longer loves me in a romantic way and wants to end our marriage. We've been civil for the kids but the emotional roller coaster that I'm on is just getting the better of me. I'm trying really hard to be nice and not fly off the handle, because 1, nothing good will come out of flipping out and 2, she said that she still wants me to maintain a good relationship with the kids ever she/they move out. I don't want to give her any reason to think I'm emotionally unstable and take the kids away.
It's just not fair how she can just turn it off just like that. And to think, 3 days before she told me she wanted out, we spent a very romantic weekend get away, kid free. We acted as if we were on our second honeymoon.
Sorry for venting.
My life has moved in many directions
But the hurt and injury caused to my heart, mind, self esteem, faith , confidence, trust, mood. sleep ,health and dreams are all something I live with daily
I hope to heal one day
but that 2 to 3 year standard..that signals grief completion.sure is a long time