I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I'm no good at advice but I hope you're able to find some way to get through this.

Christi I have been where you are. It seems impossible to get though even a few minutes. It is so hard to bare. Do you have a doctor you can go see. I think when you can't hold down food it might be a good thing to try taking a med. I take seroquel and it actually calms me down and gives both my mind and heart ache a 6 hour break.

Something to know is statistics show that in almost every case of a spouse leaving or wanting to leave, there is always a moment when they reconsider their decision about leaving. It happened when my wife cheated, she was so sure about her decision and sure enough, a moment came and we actually got back together. So I know right now it might seem like you will never get that chance but know there is a really good chance that he will change his mind and you will have an opportunity possibly to work this out.

He has just emotionally shut down on me. He says he no longer wants to be here and that is it. Every time I try to talk to him he just gets mad. I feel like he is leaving for someone else. He takes his phone everywhere with him always closes out his text window when I walk into the room and always has it on silent. I asked him to go to consuleing, he said no. He said he will just see me in court for our custody hearing.

My ex wife did the same and sure enough there was someone else...she had her iPhone welded to her hand 24-7...it's hell I know but after 2+ years it's much better..it's a slow process but it happens to so many people and its definitely survivable. In the early days I got some low level Xanax from my doctor it really helped take the edge off for a few months...take care it sucks but eventually you'll make it

Christi, as bad as it may sound, it sounds like he is done with this relationship. Don't be surprised if there is someone else. I have seen this type scenario before. I agree, there are many things in life that aren't fair and we have to go through things we thought we never would or could. I am very sorry this has happened to you. I am here if you need a friend to talk to.

I'm going through the same thing right now and we have been here before and it is the scariest thing ever to know that your family is about to be over and there's nothing you can do about it I just encourage you to continue to be strong and know that you have to find a way to stop loving him to heal yourself and to move on who am I to give advice I'm trying to make it through and I don't even know but I wish you all the best and the best that I can say is to stay strong. Hugs

I just don't understand how this man still lays his head next to mine each night in bed and plans on leaving in just 2 weeks. I can't even sleep, because I know that is one night closer to him being gone. I just lay here looking at the man that I love with all my heart laying here next to me sleeping so peacefully and I wonder what I did to make him want to walk away from everything. How is he still laying here next to me? Just sleeping away without a care as I lay here with Ailey tears running down my face? Eventually I will fall asleep and wake up in the morning with those tears dried on my face and in the corner of my eyes and wonder if he even has a second thought or care. I asked him earlier today why he hated me so much. His reply was, "figure it out". in the evening he was In The bedroom while I was in the living room and he sent me a text asking me if I was hunngry and wanted him to order is food. I went in the bedroom and he started talking to me and acted like things were normal. Now, as I lay here he is sleeping and just put his arm around me for a brief moment and then he realized he had done that and pulled it away., and I can feel him wanting me against me. It is like his subconscious still lets him care for me, but for some reason he chooses to distance himself. Tomorrow I know things will be back to no talking and being bad again. He will ignore me or send me a hateful text while I'm at work. Sad part is if he said to me tomorrow lets go get married I would still say yes. That is how much I love him. I can't just turn that off. This is terrible. I have been through breakups before, but never have I been this in love before.

You don't just stop loving someone. But you do have to be strong for your son. So you need to get a therapist. Someone for you to talk to. He is being unreasonable by not talking to you about why his feelings have changed. You deserve to know if he is reacting to something that you could talk through. He could have someone else- the phone thing means he's hiding something. My ex was the same and he had a girlfriend he left me for. Take care of yourself. We are here for you.

I too am going thru a break up, it's hard when you love that person to let them go. Sending hugs & positive enegery to you

He has someone else........but is not being honest about it.

Aww…I’m very sorry about your situation. I can understand how you must be hurting right now. Please get the help of a counselor, just for you, to get through this. I said a prayer for you. Take good care of yourself and your baby, okay?

Christi I'm sorry for your pain and heartbreak, I truly am.

I have to ask you though WHY are you allowing him in your bed? Really? The mans tormenting you.

And I'm with copingjust. There's someone else.

I wouldn't be allowing this guy into my bed, house or anything else at this point.

There have been many women on here that their
Spouses did what yours is doing when there is a
Baby or even when they are expecting one. It does
not say Much for the spouses character or integrity,
they are Usually self centered, selfish and emotionally
Immature.

Most likely he has a GF with no children would be my
Guess or at least older children. Take care of yourself
And your baby. He will spin everything is your fault
So he does not need to look in the mirror.

Go to therapy and divorce care.org is a great group
To help with your grieving and the divorce.

Love yourself and your baby and let him go. Please
Be gentle with yourself. Reach out to loving healthy
Caring people and support and let yourself grieve.

You have been Thru way too many losses. Church
groups help a lot during These times. I am very sorry
for all your pain and hurt HUGS

Last night he woke up and saw my tears. He held me tight and said he wasn't trying to make me cry and that he was trying to get along with me in his last few weeks here. He started rubbing my back and kissing me. Then he made love to me. Part of me wanted to stop him, but I knew it would probably be the last time. He was sweet and gentle like the first time I knew I loved him. I know he still loves me, but it is not enough for him. He still wants to leave he said and it is killing me. I will never love like I love him. I never want this pain again. I should have never let myself love like this.