You are only human, you made a mistake. Break ups are tough.

You have children. Please do not think about harming yourself. He is so not worth you hurting yourself!

I know it's hard, but I think you know now, that you really do need to let him go and have NO contact with him, and to be done with him once and for all. This is not YOUR fault and seeing him is only upsetting you and he is not worth another moment of your time or emotions.

I`m so sorry this has happened to you. Relationships can be really hard to deal with when they go wrong..especially when you`ve given your all.
Is there anyone you can speak to? A dr ,or someone in your surgery ,a counsellor?
I think ,once a cheater ,always a cheater.My ex seemed like charm personified ,but turned out to be emotionally and physically abusive.It does hurt because the mind can be cruel ,and you keep remembering the "Good times".Try and understand though ,these were a lie. You didn`t truly know the man you fell in love with.When someone changes ,and repeatedly hurts you with their actions ,it`s time to consider you ,and do whatever helps you to heal from this toxic relationship.PLEASE get advice ,as you need alot of support right now ,and always know we`re here for you.Xx

This is the lowest and darkest I've ever felt in my life. I can't believe I let this happen to me again. I can't believe I let this man treat me like this. I'm such a fool and I feel like I wasted and sacrificed myself for nothing the last 16 years with him. I have my kids yes they are the most important but looking back I hate myself for doing everything for him. I don't want to love again. I don't ever want to feel this pain ever again. I don't know how to cope, I'm so lost. I'm seeking therapy already before all this but now I really need to get over this. It broke me down completely this time. I can't ever be in this position ever again.
Thank you for listening I can't say enough how much it helps to know someone is willing to listen.

He obviously can't be trusted. You gave him another chance to see if it can work and now you know it won't. You never have to worry about the "what ifs" now so at least that's a positive. Don't feel bad about yourself cause you're human and you truly wanted things to work out. He's the one who should be ashamed of himself not you. As far as wanting to harm yourself, I totally can relate. I have kids to and thats what keeps me going even when I just want to never wake up again. You should get inti therapy right away. It does help to talk to someone.

I read some of your posts and don't be too hard on yourself. It sounds because you love this man, that you allowed him to be intimate with you and this in itself can be a heartbreaker if nothing positive comes from it. Because you love him and wanted things to work out is why you are so vulnerable to his actions. To be honest with you, this is a scenario I have seen many times. The man comes back, is intimate with the wife he left. He does this because he know he can. This type of action, fuels his ego and inside, he feels he can have you any time he wants to. With this being said, you have to get your act together and take a stand. It's difficult to do and to become extremely defensive but, sometimes you have to be that way. Getting therapy may help some but when it's all said and done, it's still going to be you who sets the guidelines that he can not cross As far as never falling in love again, my dad married my mom when he was 49 and they were married for 46 yrs. Life has it's hard times but, life is to be enjoyed not just endured.

I'm sorry your going through this! I know your in immense pain and your being so hard on yourself. Please dont beat yourself up because your human and we all make mistakes.

As hard as this is I can promise you it wont be this way forever. Your kids love and need you. They need your love and guidance. Let yourself heal fully. Have zero contact with him. Get whatever help and support you need. You need to fight as hard as you can for a better life. It's right in front of you but you need to keep going and you will get to an much better place.

I will pray for you and that God will heal your brokenness and comfort you. It says in the bible that God is near to the broke hearted. Lean on him!

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. You are loved, valuable, and worthy of people's time and care! I'm sorry that you have been hurt so deeply. My husband cheated on me with another woman and it made me feel very awful. Seeing a counselor helped me tremendously work on my self esteem and bring me back to reality--knowing that I was loved and important. Please know you can vent here anytime you need. If you are looking for someone to talk to, we are here! I will pray for God to bring you peace in your heart. Love to you.

I do this too. Blame myself. But why? We didn’t cheat? We chose love and that’s a beautiful thing. And we tried. But now it’s time to love ourselves and try to stop blaming ourselves. I’ll do it with you. Let’s help each other reclaim our self worth and remember who did the wrongs.

Thank you so much for the kind words. I completely have lost my sense of self worth. I have blamed myself for far too long. It's an ugly cycle I've been in with my ex. It's been a year since he first cheated on me and here I am still stuck and still love this man that can't see what he is doing to me. I can't believe I almost hurt myself for this man. I never ever want to feel like this ever again. I'm still not ok in any way but I am going to seek help and I need to move on. He thinks I'll wait around for him to figure out what he wants but I can't. I told him what he's doing is wrong and hurts me and hurts our kids to see him behave like this towards me. Whether he listens to not I needed to tell him off and tell him how I feel. I won't stand for this anymore. But I am going to need so much help to get over this man and my feelings for him. I'm so afraid to be alone but I am beyond grateful for you all on here that listen to me. I am worth something, I can say it but I need to really start believing it too.