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I can't not answer her

gabriel2012
gabriel2012
I am trying to go for no contact since she told me she is in love with her married lawyer. But she just posted something on my fb page and I know she will call soon. She does not want to lose my friendship. Remember she said "don't cut all contact with me because I might change my mind". I feel to weak and sick ( I have a medical condition) to not answer her call. I feel she will get mad and she will not call for a long time. So maybe I can answer and tell her the truth, that since she told me she loves another man I don't think I can be her friend, that I need time to think about this, but to me it is not acceptable to tell me that I should be her friend just in case she changes her mind. She has to make a choice. I could suggest to her to take time to think about it and then call me and I would see how I feel about her then.
deleted_user
deleted_user
that sounds like as good a plan as any. go for it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Okey dokey artichokey
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
if you haven't told her that already, I would then answer the call and tell her that. she needs to figure out this "thing" with the cheating husband and why she will settle for him over someone who is available.

and then, if it was me, it would be the last time I talk to her. The cheating husband should be the one on the back burner given he is really unavailable, but since he is not and she is Ok with putting me there, I don't even want her near my stove.

There is someone who wont even have a back burner to put me on.
deleted_user
deleted_user
What Chi said!
stillbitterjaded
stillbitterjaded
No. You CAN not answer. You choose not to. Your choosing to answer so she realized what a mistake she made and comes back.

And maybe she'll take a slice at you again. Accidentally of course. You have children. Is this the relationship you want them in? What if it was one of your kids going through this? What about when your ex-wife takes you to court and you lose custody/visitation with your children because if this crazy situation?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh boy, this is a tough one. I think you tricked everyone except stillbitter with your double negative. "I can't not answer her" which really means you can.

Look at what faithful said... "got for it"
Then, NewAgain said.... "okay dokey"

and on and on....

For me, I personally wouldn't cut all ties. If you cut all ties, how are you going to get revenge? I'd get a new girlfriend and then introduce her to my new girlfriend.
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hey, Galvatron, first of all, you are not doing yourself or anyone else any favour by spewing that rot. Using people is not the way to go. It will backfire and when it does, I, for one will be very happy. My ex tried that and all it caused was me to laugh my head off and him being dumped for the third time after I left him. So back off on that revenge line and grow up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You might laugh but his lady might not. According to him, she's having issues. Hehe
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
you can never be sure, I am sure that she is just abiding her time so he who laughs last, laughs best. Just like I did. hahaha
deleted_user
deleted_user
I simply stopped giving advice here. He's going to do what he wants anyway, and whenever this girl decides to take him back, he'll go running. So why bother.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It would be better for YOU if you didn't answer her- it sends a pretty clear message that you aren't going to sit around waiting for someone who just told you they are in love with someone else! Why on Earth would you want to wait around just in case? You deserve better than that! If you talk to her that gives the message that all she really needs to do is fb you and you'll respond- she has you dangling on her little line just waiting and hoping. It doesn't allow you to find peace and move on. I learned last night that if you answer then there's a very very good chance the other person will try and talk you into something- persuade you to do something that in the end is only going to hurt you.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
I understood the title Galvatron... but thanks for... well nothing really..
boydie
boydie
May I talk turkey to you? You are not going to win her by being her doormat.
I am not sure I would consider her too worthwhile since she is letting a married man use her and string her along, but I am clear that you are really unable to stop waiting for her, seems you are fixated.
I hope you will notice that all here think you should find someone interested in you and give up on this manipulative and confused person.
Life s short. Why not find someone who values you instead?
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
*like 13*
ptownjohn
ptownjohn
This guy needs to go no contact or apply elements of the 180. Anyone have the link? :)
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