She can not just take her. File court papers asap. I am sorry for the effort and how she is doing you but a child needs both parents. Breakups are hard enough as is but you deserve to be a father with a good AMT parenting time.

sad to hear your daughter & your situation, She can not just take her. File court papers asap

My daughter comes to my apartment and i feel she is so uncomfortable. I do not know what to do. I try to talk to her and get one word replys. i text her and get one word replys. I feel i lost her. What can i do with her to make her comfortable. I told her i know about the other guy in her mothers life and i am ok with it, then i asked if he was treating her right. I believe she has stayed the night with her mothers new guy in his house in georgia. This guy has also been to my house. I was thinking can i get court order restraint from house from this guy. I need help?

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thank you for the checklist, i did move out, because my ex and i both wanted a uncontested divorce , but it seems not to be working. I want to move back in. Like right now... I was wondering legally i can do this? I have a appointment with a attorney thursday.

i don't know how to play the divorce game, it is very different in each state
advice

whenever you have your daughter, give her time to ease into being at your apartment, i know it is hard but really really really try not be excited & "up",
divorce / separation and all that is tough for kids, i think they struggle with trying figure if they are allowed to feel whatever is they are feeling at the time,

you sound like a good caring father, she needs you to keep a level head because her mom is gone off the rails,

advice,
don't say/ask anything at all about her mom / they boyfriend. if she brings anything up, let her talk, let her talk openly, be mindful it is easy to for a parent to say something to make a kid shutdown

how old is your daughter?

advice,
you are her daddy, you wouldn't put her in jeopardy, you put her needs before yours. when you doubt yourself or the relationship with her, take a breath or two, don't worry, keep on the fatherly path that you have been on

my daughter is 13, i tried calling her today, but no answer. Do i wait for her to call me. now. I do get excited every time i see her. I think she feels guilty for knowing of her moms boyfriend and not telling me. I just want to have a conversation and be with her. But i understand what you say about not being excited and up. I will cut back on this..

really tough age in general ,
puberty and all those hormones screaming

with the moms boyfriend, if she told you, then she's giving up her mom, maybe she knows her mom is a tramp, if she does - don't make her acknowledge it, if she doesn't ... don't cover for her mom, and don't point it out

there is only one side in this
your daughters side
you be on it, think about what she needs to be a healthy stable mature adult, make all your decisions through that lens

find a few people you can talk to for perspective, the act of explaining to someone else clearly what is your are dealing with will help you to think clearly

consider going to a counselor to "vent", you could talk about what you daughter may be thinking in general


its 10 pm where i am, if your daughter hasn't called you, send her a good night text, don't make her feel bad for not calling, be short & sweet, i'd imagine that she be getting a lot of pressure from her mom to maybe accept the new boyfriend, accept and be happy for her mom, you want to be mindful about not putting any pressure on her

look, you'll handle this, the fact that you are worried about how to handle this shows you to be a man, a father, that is concerned for his daughters best interests, thats good, shes in good hands

I text her , still no reply. I think maybe her mom got her new phone and phone number.

I am doing everything you say. But i just cannot reach my daughter. Maybe she moved on without me.

idk, just feeling lost. feeling the other guy she like more then me.

maybe i need to let her come to me now. Don't try call her or text her anymore.

don't torture yourself,

control what you can, you can't control how and when your daughter responds to your texts/calls, there may be 100 "good" reasons why she didn't, AND remember she may not know how to respond / what to say / because she is in the same shitstorm you are and she is 13

Your 100% responsibility is to be a constant in her life that she can depend on to keep acting the same way, kind of like the North star, be who you are - who you say you are to her, no matter how the wind blows, your 13 year needs that from you

be predictable,

call once a day, if you don't speak with her, text towards the end of the day, be short be sweet tell her you love her and to sleep easy

see your lawyer on Thursday, ask about progressing custody and visitation

Thank you for all your advice i do appreciate it. We texted each other this morning. She said she had her phone off. But i believe her mother makes her do that when she is with her boyfriend, because honestly what 13 year old shuts their phone off.

What do you mean be predictable?

She is coming over this weekend with a friend. We going school shopping..

Trying to think what else to do with them. I was thinking playing a board game , cards and maybe ice cream later.

i am also will be asking if she can take my child out of the state without my knowing or consent. We live in south carolina her boyfriend lives in georgia is about 2.5 hours away. If she does take my child out of the state , do i not need to know where my child is, since she is not staying at her or away from her primary living place.

by predictable, i mean from her perspective, be consistent, like call around the same time, text goodnight around the same time - that is simple, but reassuring sunup sundown
predictable, her mom is changing everything about herself
be steady & don't change
value what you've always valued as far as principles go

enjoy this weekend,