Don't do it, it'll save you a lot of pain and suffering.

Bad idea. Especially if you still have feelings for the person.

I'm going to try I'm just so tired of being miserable all the time seems like either way I'm going to be miserable it sucks and seems never ending.

Total no contact works well with the healing
And moving on process. Its all pain filled just
this way you can detach from him and the
relationship. HUGS

Thank you mirandac... I agree I have to get myself away from all of this.

It took me 18 months of no contact and moving
To detach from him. Its a process and its difficult
When you are grieving and in pain, HUGS

Very rarely does this work if one of the partners is hurting..you have to completely detach first so you're not emotionally affected. I'd advise against it if you're posting about it. I tried it with my ex it was a road to no where but more pain. Now after 2+ years of complete no contact I suppose we could be friendly but I really have no desire to communicate with her at all. We've both just moved on with our lives

There is no chance of reconciliation if one goes no contact, so if one doesn't want the chance of reconciliation, I guess no contact is the best way.

I cannot abide even being in the same room as her. Why? I do not want to risk breathing in anything that has spewed out of her vile lungs.

It will not work. How can you be friends with someone you thought was your best friend and then betrayed you? Especially after 22 years. I never want to talk to her again. There is a reason why the relationship crumbled, so why remain friends? Trust is gone, the feelings I had for her...gone. There will be new friends in the future. Stay strong. -HUGS-

Only if there are kids involved but minimal contact.

No kids = no contact and Def no sex.


The less you see of them the faster you heal.

My first divorce, I married him twice. He was horrible, but I had to give it a final try. I was never sorry for doing it. I never had to wonder what if. Feelings are unreliable. They change like the wind. People can change, everyone makes mistakes. Starting again with someone new, is a clean slate, but what if this person is worse than the one now. Religiously, we are taught that only God has the right to judge and we are to forgive many, many times. The bible says that if we don't forgive then we can't be forgiven. I wouldn't want someone to not forgive me if I made a mistake and this is why I feel this way.

I don't think it is really ever a good idea......brings back old and sometimes painful memories. Look forward...forge ahead! Are there any divorce support groups in your area??

If you have kids then you need to get to friendship. It is hard it is painful but it will be best for the kids.

My ex thinks we can be friends after all this, but I think it depends on how much anger and resentment there is. If both people have no feelings toward the other one and part easily, then yes it is possible. But if one person is still in love with the other, then I don't see how that could be possible.