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Able76
Able76

I'm a 45 male. Last week my wife of 11 years decided she will be leaving me taking our only 8 y/o daughter with her across the country ti live with her family for now. She is selling the house( under her name but we bought it together and I've been paying for). I'm partly at fault to be honest. All this years I've been suffering from some sexual disfunction and for shame, embarrassment I never took care of my problems. I love her so much but I cannot express my feelings the way she is expected. I love my daughter more than anything in this world and the idea of losing her is driving me crazy. I've been literally begging her to start over, to give me a chance to try again, to start from zero so I can keep my family as I know it. She's decided to leave and said she gave me 11 years and enough is enough. We rarely fought or have majors disagreements let alone been verbally or physically abusing. I'm a total mess right now. I cannot process the idea of losing my family. I'm not sure if I want to be alive the minute I can see my daughter anymore. 

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Able76, So sorry you are dealing with all of this.

Did you consult with an attorney over your daughter, the divorce, etc?
Able76
Able76
I have an appointment tomorrow but I don’t think that will change anything. I’m divided between fighting to keep my ex from leaving my state or keep things peacefully and let her go. If I fight and win , I know she will make my life and my daughter’s life a living hell. On the other side, the only loser will be me. Either way my life sucks so I don’t know what to do.
Able76
Able76
I just feel smashed like a cockroache.
itwillbeok
itwillbeok
I agree with everyone else that I understand how your emotions are all over the place, and you aren't sure what to do. If you can, try to get a divorce lawyer. At least a free consultation. Perhaps when you learn more about your rights it might help that horrible panic and pain you are feeling. Resist trying to contact her...it won't change what she is doing. I hope you have something you can hug, a pet, or even a pillow.
Able76
Able76
A pillow is all I have.
catch_the_music
catch_the_music
Talk to a Pastor. Tell them what you are going through. Have them pray over your marriage. See if your wife would go to a marriage seminar like "Weekend to Remember" Work to restore your marriage - if possible. Seek out a good counselor. Prayers for your marriage to be reconciled! God Bless!
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