I'm sorry for what you have been through. Yes you will get through this and come out the other side stronger and with more peace. It will take time to heal and the abuse you endured will make it harder but you will get there. You are doing the right thing. You need to put you first and counseling might also be useful. Lean on family and friends. It's a process but we've all been there and you will survive this.

So sorry for what you are going through. Yes, you are going to make it! You will be okay! You're young, only 41.... and had 21 years with him....so you have spent more than half your life with this guy, it's hard to know of any other life. But you have SO much more life to live, and it's a good thing to be away from a guy that treated you that way. Tell your family, tell your friends.... reach out to everyone. You need support to get through this. Do not be shy about asking them to talk, to help, etc. You're going to be okay! Have you talked to a lawyer, worked out child support, etc?

I have he actually got physical with me after accusing me of hiding things on my phone. My daughter and I left with nothing literally our clothes on our back. The law has failed me as he know how to get around the system. State dropped charges and CYFD closed the case because they could contact him. I feel so humiliated as he went around telling people I had something wrong and he moved I with someone else...while I drown in this pain.

Showing your daughter what you will not tolerate from another human being is showing her how to value herself, so that when she starts having relationships she knows what is ok and not ok. You have done well!

Hold your head up high and do not let what he says or does affect you. I know that is hard right now, but him trying to paint a picture that something was wrong with you, him moving in with someone else, that is all about his own insecurities, shitty self esteem and stunted emotional intelligence. He’s a small man, a very small man. Most people I bet know that about him. Believe that.

Now focus on you, purely you, and rising from the ashes. You are going to not only be ok, but better, stronger, happier.

Hugs my friend rmb said it all, you will be fine. I went through the same thing, He lied so much that he made Stephen King look like an amateur fiction writer. One thing that I have learned is to ignore him. No contact, none whatsoever. When I see him, which is rare, I just smile turn around and walk away, giggling. That will get them upset them more than anything we can say or do. Besides that, it feels so good too. hehehe Get a therapist, financial advisor and a lawyer lined up. You will need them.

My ex is a narcissist and I feel so betrayed. I know that time will heal but I feel so damaged. I lost my identity a long time ago and feel even worse now. And even after the hurt all the pain I’ve endured I still love him. I want to let him know, but deep down I know that he will never admit to what he has done.

I felt the exact same way. You're going to feel like crap for awhile. So much loss, so much betrayal, so many years, what you gave up, the shit you put up with in the name of love and he still leaves you?

It was utterly humiliating, worst pain I ever felt, I was constantly in a state of confusion, my anxiety was thru the roof, wanting him to say sorry...admit fault...make it all better...to stop the pain.

Where you are is a horrible place to be...and right now I can tell you how much better the future will be without him...but I just want to validate your pain.

If someone treated me (which has happen to me) the way that man has treated you...I would feel exactly the way you do.

Sending you light and love...and a lot of compassion. You did not deserve that poor treatment and you will have better in your life.