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he moved on so quickly

holly21
holly21

so, long story short, i started dating a guy in December last year. we spoke all the time over the christmas break and things got serious. we felt deeply for each other and i really started to fall for him, very quickly. a few weeks after we had got back to the city things went realy wrong. we started arguing a lot and we were on and off. him changing his mind all the time. eventually he ended it fully a month ago and he told me he had got with another girl so all contact was cut. few days ago i messaged to ask if he was okay (silly idea) and he told me he was already seeing someone else. it hurts that he's been able to move on so quickly. he told me i should move on too as it will help get over him, but rebounds are never a solution. i just am so confused how he moved on so quickly. i want to fully let go and move on and be happy. any thoughts/advice would be helpful.

Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
No Contact, erase all contact information. Now is the time to look after yourself. Be gentle and pamper yourself. Take as much "me" time as you need. You will be fine. I know it hurts. If you see him, smile turn around and walk away. He was never committed like you were. You will be fine.
Yard_Eggs
Yard_Eggs
By the time a person "officially" breaks up with their partner, especially if it is an "on again, off again" relationship, that person has been emotionally out of the relationship for some time.

Now that your guy is single, he is ready for another relationship and is actively pursuing one.
11Christmases
11Christmases
I'm sorry this happened. I think the one thing everyone agrees will work is NO CONTACT. No more messaging him, in fact block/unfollow him on all social media and your phone, if you're at school or work together, change your routine a little if there are times of the day you normally cross paths, And, no need to assume he's happy and that she's happy. Ignore them as much as you can and focus your time and energy on things that make you happy. Laughter with friends is the best medicine...if you are all part of the same friend group, then I'd suggest a second job or a night class to keep you very busy and meeting new people.
oregongirl22
oregongirl22
Don't rush to find somebody because he is quickly moving on. Take time to focus on yourself and be patient. The right person will come into your life when you least expect it.
Anna1212
Anna1212
Sucks that he is dating someone else so quickly. Take time to nurture yourself. I'm not a big fan of men because almost all of the ones I have known have been awful. Give it some time and I agree with the others about going no contact if possible. Don't worry about finding someone else right away. take time to heal and rest and be there for yourself. you are number 1. cross him off the list.
New_beginning
New_beginning
I’m sorry that you have to endure the pain of lost or rejection. It really sucks when the person you want don’t want you.
When my relationship ended, I begged her to come back for months. I prayed to God for her to come back for a year. And still, she’s no where insight.
Sometimes in life, the things we want, may not always line up with the things we need.

Honestly when people move on to someone quick, and just give up, “I say thank you”. They did you a favor. You want someone who will fight for you and the relationship till the end of time, not till the end of winter, or until things get hard.

And no matter what people say for why they left, no answer will be good enough.

So I wish you luck and quick healing through this time of pain.

For me I try to find what things trigger me to those old feelings, and try to avoid them at all cost. So you’ll have to find what things work for you. Good luck
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