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Shaner23
Shaner23

So my husband of 20 years cheated with 3 women and I had enough so I kicked him out in august he just moved right in with the woman he was cheating with last. He's barely seen our kids and hasn't contributed a dime and he's so happy and I get to deal with all the bills and the kids aND my emotions and the kids emotions and here recently I wake up everyday just hating my life. I know they say it gets better but when ugh ... just want to not hate my life.

bluemoon29
bluemoon29
You're doing the good work. I've been where you are now. Keep doing the next right thing! The rewards of having done your best in the darkness are more than I can explain. Sending gentle hugs your way:) keep up the good work!
Ghostdancer
Ghostdancer
Have you retained an attorney yet? He would be best to volunteer a fair amount of monthly spousal support before a judge orders an amount. Is there an advocacy group in your area? Yep I’m a man having to divorce stbx after 38 yrs, so I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum but guess what I still have a restraining order against her in its second year and I’ll most likely keep it in effect after divorce too. Divorce laws are so different state to state so it makes it hard to know how best to offer advice that works. I would say check your state bar association they may have a on hour for $35 or so dollars to consult with an attorney to test the waters and ask lots of questions. Blessings, strength, courage.
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Hugs..... how hurtful during a painful process. Does he work? He needs to be helping you! How old are the kids?
jojored
jojored
Keep exacting records of what you're spending for the house and kids. This will come to bite him in the butt but you'd be best protected with an attorney. My ex decided he just wanted to pay the bills he wanted to, in the amount he wanted to contribute, while still living here. That is one sure way to piss off the judge - both parties are supposed to maintain the financial status quo. he doesn't get to go off and live with the flavor of the month and spend money on himself and her. Nope, the kids are supposed to come first. Supposed to. You have to fight for it with some cheating lying stbxs.
chicagogem
chicagogem
I’m so sorry for the betrayal you’ve experienced and hurt from his lack of any kind of support. You have been thrown into the trenches, but good for you for staying in it with the kids and pressing on. Your kids are blessed to have a mom like you. Do you have a support system for yourself? Friends or family close by to help? Praying for people to surround you with encouragement and support.
Alina
Alina
I feel so sorry about your situations. Heart break is so devastating in itself and not receiving any support for you and kids elevate the ache even more. I have been through such situation
and totally understand how you feel. However giving up your lawful rights is never an option. You gotta fight for it. I would like to recommend you a law firm I have been helped from. Check https://www.baysingerlaw.com/ , they are really good.
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