You're not alone. I've been married for 25 years and just found out she wants to divorce. I am so devastated and don't know if i can handle it. Just know that you're not alone.

Better this happened now than later after marriage and kids right? She has shown her true self, a lying cheater. Break up with you and ask why you're not fighting for her? Really? Whiles she's banging the new guy..? Get the ring back and consider yourself lucky for dodging a cruise missile. Cut her completely out of your life and work in healing. She's not worth your pain. It'll hurt but just keep thinking of her cheating on you and take her off the pedestal. If it didn't happen now it would've later. Better it happened now. You'll make it.

I agree with Kbbcoop. I have been married for 18 years, 2 kids, and found out about the cheating. It is better that you cut ties now. No one who loves you would do this. She is selfish to keep your ring and as an option b. You deserve better. Don't fall into her trap. Let her go. Cut all contact and start to heal from the betrayal. This door may have closed but usually another one opens right? I wish I could cut all contact. This is hard. But we are all here to help each other.

Yup broken my wife dumped me after 24 years and 2 kids thank God they're pretty much grown. She was banging our daughters boyfriends dad, some asshat I've actually had over to my house and 4th of July festivities. What sucks is seeing just how common this betrayal really is. I don't need to talk to her really that much anymore which helps tremendously. She too wanted to be friendly and blah blah screw her.

Wow Kbbcoop, That is crazy. Sorry that is happening to you. Betrayal is bad, but I think it's worse when it's someone you know or have invited into your home. My children are to young so I unfortunately have to still have contact. I unfortunately still hold out hope that we can work on things. I know I am delusional right now but I guess it is where I am in the process.

Thank you all for kind words. After all said and done I still find my self longing for her. When will this pain inside my heart ever go away. I know that I have dodge a cruise missile. But at the same time this really sucks. I had envisioned us together for life. Why did God let this happened? Fair question or NO? Who to blame? No one but myself I guess. I really did not see this coming. We got along really well and did not engage in any major conflicts. I hate her at times and wish her hell. At the end of the day I take that all back. I don't wish this kind of heart ache on my worst enemy. I have no problem with NO CONTACT rule for she has blocked from all sorts to media contact. I sometimes want to drive by and do something to her car, place, or something but I have refrain from doing such bad thing. I have prayed and prayed each night for God to help me get rid of the pain inside of me. I have also decided to forgive her and wish her well. Sometimes I take that back but ultimately deep down in my heart I have forgave her. The pain is still with me today. It has been two since she email me an apology and told me that she has found someone else and now loves him. She is cutting all contacts with me. Wow guys pray for me heal quickly please. Again I pray for each and everyone of us that has been treated so unjustly by others. Amen

Aw how painful. I am so sorry. I wish like you the pain would go away. I tired of it. Then cheating on top is just devastating. Sending thoughts for a trying time.

I am so sorry you have to go through this. It's hurts when people stop loving you, but it hurts worse when they deceive you. Surround yourself with people who love and care about you. And don't blame yourself.

I feel for you.
We all experience betrayal here...you are not alone

19 years of marriage and sudden rejection

and Yes there was somebody else in the picture

I agree with all of what s being said. You're better off finding out now than years into a marriage or after kids. I use to pray to god to take the pain away but then I read this post on facebook i think that said pray for strength to get through what you're going thru. (not exactly what it said, it was a lot better worded than that lol) You re already stronger than you think, you re still here, you're still surviving without her :) you'll be okay, it sucks and its going to suck for a while but you'll come out the better for it, you'll learn from this and you'll be stronger and better because of it. It sucks when you trust someone with your heart and they just toss it away and its worse when its someone you thought would never be capable of doing that...........but arent we better off without them in our lives people who are so easy to dismiss love??? I hope you feel better very soon, just focus on you try some new things get a new hobby, just be good to yourself, you'll feel better in time. Take care

Hello everyone. It' has been over two weeks now since I was dumped and she said she is mailing my ring to me. She lives like 45 miles away. Everyday I am a little afraid of opening up my mailbox and seeing a package with her name on it. I'm thinking it would depress me even more. At this point I don't think that I will be getting my ring back. I lost my cool when I read her last email stating that she apologize and that she did not used me and did not strung me along. I went ballistic on her calling her a liar cheater and every bad name you could think of. I regret going that route. My anger got the best of me. Today I am still feeling the pain. Not as extreme as it was before. I really thought I was going to die at the beginning. Now it just hurt. Thanks everyone.

your pain will ease with time, but please get support from wherever you can

Nothing hurts like a wife or fiance telling you "I don't love you". My ex told me that after 6 years of marriage. Her exact words were "I don't love you and, never have". This devastated me because she was my high school sweetheart. This basically destroyed our marriage and we divorced after 10 yrs. The last 2 years we lived together, we just basically co-habitated. I moved out after 8-1/2 yrs. of marriage.

Time will help with the healing but as with any wound, the scars will remain. I am very sorry this happened but, it is better to happen before marriage than, after marriage.

Sorry that you are experiencing such a heartache.

Thank you all for your kind words of encouragement. It is now going on 3 weeks since my contact with her. She said she is mailing my ring back to me and in 2.5 weeks have not seen it. I have all the outfits that she has bought me all boxed up and ready to be sent to her. Waiting another two more weeks then I am sending it to her. Seeing the box of the outfits that she has bought me causes me pain and grief. I still grief as of now. Even when I should not. Why should you mourn someone that is still alive? I mean she cheated on me and strung me along and kept me her fiance as option B and her new man as option A. Help friends.... What should I do?