Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Has anyone else had the desire to just totally detach from society. I am so sick of all the stresses and pressures that I have been going through and I just wish I could take off for about a year and disappear from the mainstream of society. This job hunt that I am on makes me want to do this even more.
I can't seem to handle stress correctly anymore. Everytime I get really stressed out my body reacts by upping my blood pressure, I begin to sweat, and I almost get a sense of fight or flight. My mind will also begin to race. I am on medication for General Anxiety Disorder, which I didn't have until this year, and it works sometimes but in really high stress events it doesn't seem to keep my mind from racing.
I just feel that over the course of this last year there has been so much stress that was introduced into my life, the divorce, the demotion, quitting my job, and medical issues that my body has become hyper-sensitive to stress related issues.
I really wish I could just take off for a while in my boat and not deal with the mainstream. Just sail around, visit new places, relax, and not deal with all the pressures of my life. I have bills to pay, a $427 a month insurance to pay now that I am jobless, $80 a month in prescription medicines, and all kinds of other things that I have to deal with. I am just sick of the whole situation and I am beginning to realize that no matter what I end up doing for a job there will be plenty of stress in it because this whole world is high stress. It sucks.
I really wouldn't mind going back to school for a while and get new training for a new job but I just can't figure out how I would pay for it without getting back into debt from student loans etc.
If anyone out there has dealt with something like this how did you handle it?
I can't seem to handle stress correctly anymore. Everytime I get really stressed out my body reacts by upping my blood pressure, I begin to sweat, and I almost get a sense of fight or flight. My mind will also begin to race. I am on medication for General Anxiety Disorder, which I didn't have until this year, and it works sometimes but in really high stress events it doesn't seem to keep my mind from racing.
I just feel that over the course of this last year there has been so much stress that was introduced into my life, the divorce, the demotion, quitting my job, and medical issues that my body has become hyper-sensitive to stress related issues.
I really wish I could just take off for a while in my boat and not deal with the mainstream. Just sail around, visit new places, relax, and not deal with all the pressures of my life. I have bills to pay, a $427 a month insurance to pay now that I am jobless, $80 a month in prescription medicines, and all kinds of other things that I have to deal with. I am just sick of the whole situation and I am beginning to realize that no matter what I end up doing for a job there will be plenty of stress in it because this whole world is high stress. It sucks.
I really wouldn't mind going back to school for a while and get new training for a new job but I just can't figure out how I would pay for it without getting back into debt from student loans etc.
If anyone out there has dealt with something like this how did you handle it?
So this is some sort of Lord of the Flies thing? I'm in. I play guitar if someone brings instruments. Where will I plug my amp in? I guess I could bring the acoustic... Can I row?
You should try it, you may never come back though, just warning ya.
Wish I could.
In regard to the topic, I understand how you feel, but running away from life would be just a temporary fix; you'd have to return and deal with all these issues upon your return eventually. Give yourself a little time because I think it's fairly normal to feel overwhelmed and stressed when life becomes overwhelming and stressful.
Make the laughter stop!
Honestly, just like my pain in the ass is other stress effects. I was telling my dad today, I wish I could work some, but dealing with NOs and the crap to look for what I want (and can't have right now because I have no clue IF I will get better and when, so I can't relocate or show up because I can't stand or sit over 5 mins until I learn different) is too stressful and fruitless.
A good friend of mine that had cancer and was out of work 2 yrs, gave me the best advice I had so far. To just rest and get well, in my own time, and everything else will fall into place when I am over this injury. Not to worry about jobs or anything like that, because that will make me excited and I need less of that. She also told me she wishes she had done that herself, just been more patient to properly recoup her health before going back to work, since I am not worried with income for the time being.
I make her words mine. What is the rush? Where are you going so fast? Living fast (wanting to be better right away, the perfect job right away, recoup fcrom div overnight), all these create anxiety and stress and perpetuates your issues. Slow down, because the only finish line in life is death, the more you live on the fast lane, the sooner you get to it. Really, you have been through A LOT. How about just giving yourself some well deserved rest in between now and the next job?
I used to think like that, I had to be well and do all right now. So, I understand where you are coming from. But listen to your body and see what that is all doing to it. In the greater scheme of things, trust me, it does not mater if you have a few months break or a couple yrs break. Things don't change all that much. Heal well so you can go back to the fight when you are all in one piece and ready, take your time to get that point.
I can't wait to spend a couple months at the beach after all this crap, I have a lot to take in and process. Life will be right there waiting for me when I am ready. Have faith in yourself. You are not a slave, you are not wonderman, you are human and you DO need a break.
Hugs
Hitler.
I realize that getting away from society would be a temporary fix, but I also think it would give me time to heal the wounds that all that stress has placed on me.