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Has anyone else had the desire to just totally detach from society. I am so sick of all the stresses and pressures that I have been going through and I just wish I could take off for about a year and disappear from the mainstream of society. This job hunt that I am on makes me want to do this even more.
I can't seem to handle stress correctly anymore. Everytime I get really stressed out my body reacts by upping my blood pressure, I begin to sweat, and I almost get a sense of fight or flight. My mind will also begin to race. I am on medication for General Anxiety Disorder, which I didn't have until this year, and it works sometimes but in really high stress events it doesn't seem to keep my mind from racing.
I just feel that over the course of this last year there has been so much stress that was introduced into my life, the divorce, the demotion, quitting my job, and medical issues that my body has become hyper-sensitive to stress related issues.
I really wish I could just take off for a while in my boat and not deal with the mainstream. Just sail around, visit new places, relax, and not deal with all the pressures of my life. I have bills to pay, a $427 a month insurance to pay now that I am jobless, $80 a month in prescription medicines, and all kinds of other things that I have to deal with. I am just sick of the whole situation and I am beginning to realize that no matter what I end up doing for a job there will be plenty of stress in it because this whole world is high stress. It sucks.
I really wouldn't mind going back to school for a while and get new training for a new job but I just can't figure out how I would pay for it without getting back into debt from student loans etc.
If anyone out there has dealt with something like this how did you handle it?
I can't seem to handle stress correctly anymore. Everytime I get really stressed out my body reacts by upping my blood pressure, I begin to sweat, and I almost get a sense of fight or flight. My mind will also begin to race. I am on medication for General Anxiety Disorder, which I didn't have until this year, and it works sometimes but in really high stress events it doesn't seem to keep my mind from racing.
I just feel that over the course of this last year there has been so much stress that was introduced into my life, the divorce, the demotion, quitting my job, and medical issues that my body has become hyper-sensitive to stress related issues.
I really wish I could just take off for a while in my boat and not deal with the mainstream. Just sail around, visit new places, relax, and not deal with all the pressures of my life. I have bills to pay, a $427 a month insurance to pay now that I am jobless, $80 a month in prescription medicines, and all kinds of other things that I have to deal with. I am just sick of the whole situation and I am beginning to realize that no matter what I end up doing for a job there will be plenty of stress in it because this whole world is high stress. It sucks.
I really wouldn't mind going back to school for a while and get new training for a new job but I just can't figure out how I would pay for it without getting back into debt from student loans etc.
If anyone out there has dealt with something like this how did you handle it?
And my family still has no idea what is going on in my life.
I'm just living a lie !
Somebody ....take me away...please.
I've had a rough year too. And I feel like there are so many demands on me, and I get to feeling easily frustrated and irritated these days. Sometimes I think something's wrong with me, but I know it's just feeling overwhelmed by all the responsibility in my life.
The past year started with my mother dying (something I still haven't really faced), getting a herniated disk in my back (I'm still recieving testing because it hasn't healed), the breakup with the father of my almost 2 year old daughter (I was basically a single mom even when with him - he was like a helping visitor - he'd come over a few hours and help with a few things then leave - one of those that wasn't able to make the sacrifices it takes to be a full time partner and parent. These things happened in one week! That's how my year began, and there are so many other things inbetween - so many demands I deal with on my own, combined with the fact that I haven't slept properly since my daughter was born almost 2 years ago, and I think that's having an effect on me more and more.
I may sound like an old country song - sorry if I do. But I saw your posting as soon as I logged on and felt I can relate with how overwhelmed you must feel right now.
I'm sorry for you - for the stress your experiencing right now. I too don't feel anyone in my life really understands what it's like for me right now. And I have very little support.
Anyhow, I just wanted to say that I understand how overwhelmed you must feel right now. Personally, I try very hard to keep a balance between being healthy and trying to get the support I need (although it's not always there) to help me along the way.
Today I'm also trying to think of a way to do something special for myself. Like you, I need a change or something just for me to lift my spirits and bring me a little joy.
Re: new job training... Here in Canada our Employment Agency (by the goverment) provides new job skills training for free. Maybe you could look into what kinds of services your area provides.
All the best.