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mjcarls2
mjcarls2

I am not sure like me others on this site if this is the way to go for me, but I am so desperate right now that I will about try anything.  I involved in a very toxic relationship.  I have been involved with a man for six years whom I have love with all my heart.  I have and would have done anything just to have him in my life.  To come to find out in this six year relationship there have been many different woman... 13 that I know of... 


With that being said, everytime I find out about another woman, I leave hime sware I will never take him back... he shows up swares he will never do it again and then I return and the cycle begins again.  I feel as though this is a game that we both are playing, I find it very disturbing and have tried many times to remove myself.. I just do not know what to do... 

serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Well if no kids I would consider no contact. That's alot of affairs so consider therapy as to why this is acceptable for him to do over and over and come back. It is a very unhealthy cycle. I myself have had this back and fourth stuff with my ex just not with affairs. But it really does become a toxic habit. We have kids so no contact completely doesn't work but i limit all contacts as much as I can.
Brokennz
Brokennz
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Find someone who truely adores you.
TheSelfishIdiot
TheSelfishIdiot
As I see it if he loved you he wouldn't have cheated on you the first time. If you truly love someone you will do anything for them. You need to look for someone who will love you and adore you and never even thinks about cheating on you. Guys like him give the rest of us a bad name. I myself never cheated on my soon to be ex and I would never even think of it. It just got to the point with us that she wasn't happy anymore and felt that she needed to move on. If it is truly what will make her happy that is all I want for her . You need to move on for you and break the cycle. It hurts to be alone but you can find someone better that will love you unconditionally and never even think of cheating on you.
tolonely
tolonely
Yes if there is no children involved get out you deserve much better then that
sjs777
sjs777
distance yourself to see if there is any change in his heart, work on you for the sake of you and enjoy the things you've always wanted to do. on the one hand he will see the new you and on the other you set the stage for a new life of your own with or without him
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