Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Having been there, I know it is a tough decision on YOUR part SD. but you have to take a very strong stand now. He is on very dangerous ground for sure, and it can get very ugly. No man is worht the agony of the future he brings.
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And don't leave him alone with her ever again.
Geeze, his comments about your daughter while he was watching her are making me sicker and sicker inside. You have pictures of her and she's beautiful. I really fear for her safety, and wonder if he was more upset that you were coming home, then about watching her.
I'm hearing NOTHING good about this man.
do you not see your being psychologically abused? He is destroying your self esteem because of his insecurities to keep you under his control. There is nothing you could have done in your relationship to deserve being talked to this way. find out if there is an abuse shelter in your area and see if they offer classes on abuse. There are three types of abuse.
Psychological, sexual and physical. I dont know if he has physically done anything to you or not, but from your posts he is phychologically battering you.
Here are some links that will be very helpful for you. We all struggled with divorces as not one of us are pro divorce...we are pro healthy choices and we are learning the lessons. Please know that our intentions are good because you can reap from our experiences.
And on a very personal note....I wish that my mother would have paid attention to whom she was entrusting me to.....several times...
MARCH MARCH MARCH!
http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/2816539-manual
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358621-stages
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358615-loveless
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358611-7steps
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358596-no-contact
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358587-forgiveness
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358584-loving-yourself
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358575-loneliness
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358567-pastas-posted
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358554-drama
http://dailystrength.org/help/crisis-resources
http://www.hud.gov/homeless/index.cfm
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/6969338-your-message
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/7880220-break-up-survival-guide/lastpage
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/8291684-survivors-bill-rights/lastpage
Please do what you can to make this better for you and your kids.
That's called Projection. Where he's accusing you of what's on HIS mind. This scares me more and more about your daughter.
Please move out today. Please.
I'm the most permissive of parents. I let my kids walk to and from the school bus alone. I let fevers run to 103 without calling the doctor.
But when RED FLAGS come up like this....shoot girl I'm shaking.
The fast romance. Asking to get married after a short time. Wanting to get married rather than living together (or at least an engagement long enough to know each other). A single mom, with a beautiful daughter. A cell phone that he hides. Texting women and GIRLS. And if you found a 17 year old (not even asking how you know her age), then there MUST be younger ones!!! Gosh, she's a teenager...she probably lied about her age to him making herself older!!!
SCREW whatever anyone else thinks about this short marriage. Get out now! Your thinking hasn't been warped by years of mind games yet. Your daughter is still safe.
The lifeboats are being launched....get on one.
So, have you asked your HR department if there is an EAP program? They are very anonymous and they will work with you find further counseling that is covered under your benefit plan. They usually give you 3-5 free sessions.