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Catch 22

Rman
Rman
For my life, it's a no win situation...
I finally realize that people in a relationship, wait for the other to act, in order for them to act. The problem is that the other person in the relationship also feels this way. Then there is a standoff...
Then nothing happens...
If I'm not making sense, then it is because I don't make sense, usually...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've always carried the weight in relationships...making them work..trying.. being good wifey. "We'll get through this." I always said.. and I believed. Because I thought that was what relationships meant, ..go through the bad and good.

I thought if I hung in there with my recent X, through this midlife crisis thing; and gave even more..I could stop what my instincts were telling me was happening.

Duh. Didn't work. It took an extreme need to be free for my partner to say the words, "I want my own life without you."

I gave it EVERYTHING for 12 years. I could easily feel used and victimized, but I realize now this is my M.O. I have done this ALL THE TIME. I have to accept accountability for not expecting more in return, and for not expecting more of a partnership instead of me once again being the Mommie-Savior-Homemaker.

Lesson learned. Finally.