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Strong4me2017
Strong4me2017

A couole days ago I posted about my divorce being a week away. Well yesterday my stbx texted me wanting to talk. I called him he said he wanted to come down and see me. I told him no I don't want to see you. Even though in my heart I really wanted it. Why because I'm an idiot who loves him l. Any way he said he was coming and I let him. We talked and fought then had that fantasy moment where time stopped we held each other something that I have wanted for months. I have missed him so much it honestly felt like a dream. And then I made a huge mistake I slept with him. He told me he wanted to work things out with us. He now lives 4 hours away so that make a it difficult we were trying to figure it out. And what would happen well he went home this morning. I told him I was really scared that he would change his mind. He said don't worry we will figure it out. He went home and went to sleep. All day i knew that he was goimg to change his mind something was going to happen. I was right. He texted me later telling me he has doubts and thinks we shouldn't do and he is sorry. I'm so stupid why did I do this to myself I don't understand what is wrong with me why???  I can't stop crying I'm so tired of this torture and I did to myself why would I even think to trust him I feel so stupid

sjs777
sjs777
its somewhat common that when reality of it all hits that the departing party has moments of doubt. I would caution, to be sure that he is genuine and sincere. We're all human, with emotions and theres no shame in your actions. stay strong
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
Well you fell for the oldest trick in the book. What's done is done, now you know not to fall for his bullshit again. He sounds like a total cad.
arfie
arfie
May the tears cleanse your heart while the education leaves you wiser.

Be gentle with yourself during the recovery. The heart has a mind of its own. . . It goes where it goes.
LoveFaith
LoveFaith
Walk away knowing you did all that you can, no more what ifs. Hugs and peace to you. I will remember you in my prayers.
thiscantbeit
thiscantbeit
You're not stupid. You are just in love with a selfish man that knows it. Try to allow yourself to learn from these moments and remember what they feel like to try and keep yourself in check. A quick fix will always cost us double. I'm sorry that you have to be going through this. I will be praying. - Hugs
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