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Sadme80
Sadme80

I spoke to my ex today. She broke up with me about five years ago. I have not been able to get over her. I did not help matters by remaining friends with her all this time. So today I spoke with her and I don't know why I did this, but I told her I wasn't over her. That I wished she would give me another chance. So she made it clear how much over me she is. She's with someone else now and that's to be expected. She broke up with me five years ago. But it still somehow really hurt me to have her tell me she's moved on to someone else. I feel so stupid for feeling this way. And I feel so regretful that I didn't just cut her out of my life five years ago. She's the one who wanted to remain friends. I should have said no. And so today I shut her out. Completely. Deleted her phone number, deleted photos, deleted from social media. Now I wish I could just delete her from my heart, because I'm hurting so badly and somehow it feels actually worse than it did when she broke up with me five years ago.

Alonedadof2
Alonedadof2
My heart goes out to you my friend! I'm so sorry this has happened to you. You owe it to yourself to heal and let go and move forward with your life.

Value your self worth. She didn't deserve you and you deserve a relationship that meets all your needs.

Maybe try councilimg if it might help to move on. I know it's hard. When I was dumped many years ago by this one girl, it took me 5 years to move on.

Don't waste another second of your life on a girl who didn't see how amazing you are.

Please love yourself more than her. Let her go for good.

Wish you all the best!
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
Wow 5 years is a long time.
You never let yourself heal, you never dealt with the loss of the relationship.
You need to stand up for yourself, and do the healing your soul needs.
Prefect reason not to stay friends after a break up. IT dragged you through 5 years of hell, you should have been healed and moved on, gotten new hobbies and done new things.

please do yourself some good and never talk top her again.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
That's too bad. Sorry you're hurting.

But if you have been friends with her for the last 5 years, didn't you know she was seeing someone now?

Don't beat yourself up for staying friends. It's what you wanted at the time. But now, you've grown, and it's time to move on and go meet some new people and get yourself out there! Good job on blocking all ways of contacting her. Time to move on..... you can do it!!!
Sadme80
Sadme80
We live far apart and have only communicated by phone the last five years. She has a somewhat serious health problem and seizure disorder so I have tried to be supportive and remain in the loop on her progress with her health. We never talked much about her social life. I assumed she would be with someone else by now, but I didn't actually know it for sure until she told me. It shouldn't have come as a surprise, but it still hurt like it did. It's like going through a second heartbreak after having never recovered from the first one.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
How have you spent the last 5 years, socially? Have you gone on dates at all?

Sometimes girls will break up with a guy but then say "But let's be friends...." as sort of a way to let a guy down easy. They don't mean - Let's be friends - literally. It's just something "nice" to say (or so she thinks). Plus you two have the long distance thing working against you.

It is in your best interest to move on, go on dates, talk to new girls.... to go and have a happy life! If you truly feel stuck, you could benefit from some counseling.
catch_the_music
catch_the_music
When I had been in relationships that ended - I would often times ask my ex to pray for the "best for one another". We moved on and it was difficult not seeing one another. But it was reassuring that we sent each other off in the best way possible.
I also found great support in joining a singles ministry at a local church. Lots of great messages, prayer support and fun/fellowship with like minded singles. It really helped to be around other people in the same situation as me. It helped give me a new start.

Prayers for your situation!
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