I was wondering about you, dont isolate
We are all in this together. This is a nasty
Road to get thru with some sanity left. I
Just did the best i could while grieving
And dealing with the divorce and all its
ugliness. I stayed as mature as possible
And tried to keep it together.

I hope With children it improves for you.
Your Ex sounds toxic, do you have a therapist
To go to? I beat every bush i could find to
Get thru my divorce. HUGS

In some ways some stuff has improved overall. I just feel overly stressed with court! I would like to seek therapy and i need too.

Sending you a big hug

Sorry for your turmoil. Please find a DivorceCare group also. It has helped me, and several women attended and did better while being separated and talking about all the emotional and legal junk to deal with. therapy and the divorce group are probably best if you can do that.

Just joined this group after being divorced over 2 years and currently engaged, and realizing more and more that i havent healed from the divorce, seeing therapists on every aspect of my life, but still feeling like im crazy some days, so thought I'd join an online support group. I think divorce with children is horrible and i didnt ever want it, and it came and hit me in the face and now having to deal with my ex because of the children has been even more trying. I need relief from the chaos some days and when its quiet, it seems to come and slap me on the face. How long does it take to truly heal?

This is all so sad and those who have posted are all expressing that. Divorce is so much harder than you could ever imagine. You feel like you have been ripped from the life you knew and are now living a totally different life where you are not sure you even recognize yourself. You feel lonely and isolated. You have the added sadness of being separated from your children, and from the way you describe your leaving, this was so painful. Your children probably didn't mean to speak harshly. They were probably confused and hurt and scared. If your husband likes control as you have said, he may look to put you down and make you look bad because you are no longer there to directly control. Do not let him rent space in your head! You will get through your resolution meeting. You will be heard by someone who is fair and your children will be treated with respect and their best interests will prevail. Stay strong! Divorce Care (www.divorcecare.org) is a great support group and I urge you to consider finding a group in your area. It helps to be with others who have traveled this journey. Spend time with family and friends who can love and support you. Be gentle with yourself. Try to do something every day to restore your balance and hope. Buy a flower for yourself, take a walk, meet a friend for a cup of coffee, talk to your pastor if you attend church, have a meal with your family. Take fifteen minutes at a time and try not to get ahead of yourself. Remind your children that you love them, they especially need to hear that. Work on what you can control and let go of the rest. Holding you in my thoughts.

I am sending you all the love, hugs and prayers I can send through this message. I know you are going through a lot and things seems out of control. Maybe we are not responsible to control every situation. Maybe it would be best to let go and let God. Praying that whatever you are sowing now in tears you will harvest in joy. Let me share this to you.

Philippians 4:6-7
"Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life."