Hi Chris, I felt compelled to reply to your post this morning because I'm right there with you.

Of course you've changed. Your whole life has been up ended.

I don't have children, just my dogs and I feel guilty. I'm not healed, I don't want to do anything, and frankly asking me to do anything right now would be like asking someone to get up and walk on a broken leg.

So I guess I'm just going to sit here and mourn for awhile. You still have your kids and their issues, so it must be difficult because you do really need to grieve and heal.

Don't be hard on yourself. You're not playing with a full deck right now :)

After a death the Jewish people sit Shiva, which I always believed was so important even though I'm not Jewish because everyone brings food and gives the bereaved time to do nothing but mourn and mentality and emotionally adjust. I think we need that too.

Give yourself permission to just be a mess for awhile. It's okay really. Don't place expectations on yourself. Just one day at a time.

Yesterday pipe under the sink broke, coffee pot stop working...I don't care anymore. Guess I'll just have to call someone and replace the coffee maker when I feel like it. Who cares.

My little dog needs to go to groomer and shoots me a dirty looks . I love him to death but right now I'm just out if it. He'll live. I make sure they have food and water and then I'm back in the zone.

It is what it is at this point.

Give yourself a break.

I am sorry for how you are feeling. I am about the
Same really even though i have no children. I go
To work and just do what i need to do. My zest for
Life is gone. Its depression and divorce. My first
Decisions after the divorce were not thought out
Well. I still am in divorce and brain fog. Emotional
Overload is more like it.

Enjoy your children let the other stuff slide outside
Of what has to be done. Just focus on your childrens
Happiness and yours. See some joy thru their eyes
And your pets if you have any. Keep it simple.

Have you done divorce care it helps or any other
Support groups/ therapy. I know not everyone likes
them, Grief is huge and it can last a long time if not
healed.

Hugs sorry for your pain

I see on the news this morning a 2 year old boy was playing at Disney in Orlando near me, and was just snatched by an alligator. They can't find him and probably won't.

Those parents are going to be...I don't know. I have no words for the grief.

The things we as human beings have to cope with.

Well you are going through major life change whether in the end it is better or not its hard to go throufh breakup. I have also changed its really part od life.
It os a challenge with kids. We must deal with all our fwwlings and emotions and deal with them too. I would so little things for yourself. I try to keep most things same such as makinf meal time with them. Etc.

I got this in my inbox today.

It's a kind of simple article that contains things some of us have already heard, but for myself sometimes I need to be reminded

http://www.purposefairy.com/81088/9-tips-for-surviving-a-personal-crisis/

Great article thank you

well, you've been knocked for a loop and you haven't had any real time to pull yourself together
but you are in process
and even so you continue to parent with your daughter's best interests at heart
although things may be turning out wrong
you are going right

keep on keeping on, the sun will come out

Your daughter lashed out because that is what kids do when they are mad. Many don't have filters . So sure, you know shit is upside down now for you. But you know what, it is upside down for your daughter as well.

I know you would rather zone out, but your daughter needs you present. I think or I hope and wish for you to be able to get the energy needed to spend more time out of that zone and with your daughter. Talking, going for lunches or dinners. Walks at night.

The only way I see the two of you getting through this is together.