that's a short list there utter ... I am sure there are more... come on..

Clearly Namaste, you can see now there is nothing wrong with you at all. You just don't have all that much to choose from. None of us do.

true... the good supply is limited for all...

Ok... Not out of love then.... You've lost that love and feeling ohh, that love and feeling, now it's gone, gone, gone....

I dont know
I see beauty just about everywhere I look
especially in people
I find all sorts of men beautiful
because of a certain something
or their smell
or their laugh
or their animal magnetism
or their charm
or (sigh) their spirit


I find the same thing in women too

but attraction?
WHOLE different thing

Hurtingandhealing said "The friends will point out any guy who happens to be breathing, but I tell them that I am not attracted. They're shocked. They think I should just be running around, dating any guy who comes along."

Some of mine are the same way. They think that 'cos I'm breathing I should be jumping on guys. But it doesn't work that way... or at least not for me. I'm choosey. Waited forever for exH to come along (and look at how that worked out. :p ) The other thing that complicates things for me is that I know I'm moving back to my home country--just not sure when--so I don't want to potentially start something then end up here open-ended again... made that mistake once already (exH).

Other friends, though, understand and don't push. :) I think people tell you what works for them, or what they'd choose... other people understand you and see that it's not what you're about.

Joy--I'm an eyes and smile gal myself. There's a guy at work with very nice both of those... but, like I said, I know I'll be moving at some point--so I'll just enjoy his eyes and smile when I see them. :)

I'm not looking at the moment, because it's so soon after my separation-- but I do really worry for when the time comes, because I've always been very picky, and not attracted to very many people. Unlike my stbx, who seems to be the opposite (no offense meant to myself, LOL!). And this tendency seems even more pronounced now that I'm older, rather than less! So as the pool of available men decreases, my pickiness increases--probably not a good thing!

I'm feeling that way, myself Namaste. I have been dating someone I know is not the right person for me. I value his friendship/companionship, but that's it. As time has gone on I'm becoming resentful, now. Honestly, I miss my exH, I miss all that we did as a family, as we did together, the jokes, the fact we knew each other so well. I wish I could take back the angriness I had, because I felt he wasn't doing enough to help. That stuff is minor. I wish I could tell him how I appreciated the stuff he did do and not take it for granted. Well, "SHE/IT" has that now.

I know I need to move on, and I have, for the most part. It's just I see what is out there and I have ZERO interest in any of it. ZERO, I tell you. I'm sick of men, I'm sick of the hidden agendas, I'm just sick of it all. I'm not an ugly person, and to them, it's a lay or whatever. To me, it's being a true person.