1 Take care of your health. If you are even thinking you need anxiety meds, make an appointment with your doctor and Go Get Them.

Anxiety (over my son) was a big killer of my marriage and contributed greatly to my ex's drinking, my anxiety, and the breakdown of communication. I wish I had done that first.

2. Do Something about your financial situation. Whatever must be done. Face it. Bankrupsy if you need it.

3. Her parents aren't part of your marriage. If you want to go to counseling then Do It. If there's a chance to save the marriage, do all that you can.

4. Go easy on yourself. As you can tell from this board, you're not the only one to have a troubled marriage, nor the only one to have economic problems. So give yourself a break.

5. Two young kids can be rough for her at home also. I lived it. I know it.

6. Know that a divorce isn't the end of the world either. In fact it can be a chance to start fresh. With your money under your control, and hopefully more time spent with your kids.

Hugs.

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate all the support I've received. And guess what...I've even gotten support from banned members, regarding this thread...even though they can't post on DS. This tells me that perhaps everyone should get another chance here.

"Maybe it will take losing the house for your wife to understand the circumstances."

Brilliant! Up the ante. No one is realizing the damage yet. It's all "fuzzy" damage until someone takes that first step whether it be up, or out.

However, don't take it if you aren't prepared to follow through.

Good to see support is still here...

A. I'm about to lose my house and I don't want to put my kids on the street. -
YOUR In-laws would take in your kids. They won't be on the street.

B. Wife's parents had an intervention with me and freaked me out. MAYBE they can have an intervention with your wife and help her to see that she has to get a job

C. Wife said she would give marriage one more chance, if I followed her guidelines.
DON'T do it Rman - you will regret it. unless she follows your guidelines

D. I think I need meds for anxiety.
THAT could very well be. - call your Doctor

E. I think I'm drinking too much.
NOT a good thing to do with anti anxiety drugs - There is no antidote if you mix them to much with alcohol

F. I'm burnt out from working and on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
YES you are.. take a long weekend for yourself. Run away from everything and everyone you know.

G. I have no taco kit at home.
THIS is the worst thing of all. Maybe you can get them while you are taking your long weekend.

I'm here for you, and if not, you know how to contact me. Oh wait, I acted like I really knew you and I was trying to help.. That means I'm going to get suspended. Damn....

Let me rephrase everything...
Everything will work out fine for you. Keep smiling....

So smiling is the key to getting cured?

And a boobie avi.

Essential.

LOL!

I didn't realize those were boobs until a few minutes ago...wow...what about the pirate's avi? what the hell are those?

turn that frown upside down young man...

I think those are a boobie accident. Horrid collision of boobies.

I wish I was somehow involved in that horrible collision...

You will be okay....just so what you need to do. Get away from the booze. go to doc and get anti-anxiety meds if you need them..just don't abuse them. Take it a day at a time. Don't think too far out or don't dwell on the past. Just live in the moment and do the right thing. Your family needs you..all of them. Hang in there!

hey Rman, I am here, I just lurk. The Housing Hope Hotline can help with the house issue. They can put a stay on any forclosure proceedings until you can refinance or get it worked out. The anxiety meds will help with drinking and stress, but you may also want to check into your companies EAP (employee assistance program) for free counseling!!! That should help as well. For perspective on the drinking try an AA meeting. You can see what happens should you not be able to take steps to handle it. As for the guildelines, that's crap! My ex once told me if I have gastric bypass and plastic surgery, meanwhile he could continue to drink and beat the hell outta me....UMMMM, fuck all that! You both have to compromise!!! Otherwise, it won't work. Taco kits at Dollar General!!!

I'm sorry if I'm way off base here, but it seems to me that I need more information. What was the intervention about? Depression? Anxiety? Drinking? And what were your wife's terms? People here seem to be sure they were unreasonable. Did you think they were unreasonable Rman? As for the house, are you upside-down on your mortgage? Even if you are, you might be able to make a deal. Have you tried to make a deal?

I wish I could help, Rman. I hope someone here knows you better than I do and can give you some good advice.

He just showed up outta nowhere today lisa, I am as confused as you are.

lol