Hi all,  this is my first major holiday divorced, and I'm more than happy about it.  Trouble is we have two teenaged sons, and he's not responding to texts or emails about holiday plans.  Just doesn't want to deal with it, so  he's not.  I don't put my sons in the middle and ask them about stuff about their dad, but today I've had to ask them both to find out from their dad what he's planning with them, so I can plan.  It's so freaking rude I can't stand it.  My oldest is temporarily living with his dad and grandmother since he lost his dorm room this semester, and even he doesn't know.  My youngest, at 17, has decided what HE wants to do, and that's what I think we're going with.  He's working in the afternoon, so we'll do a brunch, he'll head off to work, and then he can see his dad that night or the next day.  If his dad is around.  My brother usually has thanksgiving with us and has been asking, so he's waiting.  I didn't have anything I absolutely had to do, a particular time or anything, I'm flexible, but come on, it's less than 2 weeks away.  If I can, I'd like to visit another brother later in the day, but that'll depend upon when/if my boys go to see their dad that night.  

Any advice for dealing with an ex who just doesn't want to?  This is his usual MO for all situations, he leaves everything up in the air till the last minute.  I guess I can't expect anything else, but we did agree in the parenting plan to make plans a month in advance of the holidays, for everyone's sake, including the kids so they could plan other holiday activities with friends, school, work.  Guess I'm just venting.