Wow I read this whole thread and it was profound, especially the guy who posted just before me.

I love the idea of a polyamorous relationship, but only if their is mutual love between us all. I've had times when I've been really emotionally close to two people at the same time, and they were somewhat close, and it was amazing.

I very well believe I could love a man and woman at the same time, so long as they also love each other to some degree. If I love someone else while loving my partner, I don't think I could help but feel like I was effectively cheating on them, with or without their permission.

I've actually been thinking of making a short film about this; where a couple unknowingly cheat on each other... with the same person, then just figure 'to hell with it' and they all stay together, but now openly.

im new to poly and i had a gf my 1st gf ever! my bf is my primary always will be it was a difference experience for us the gf was dating me and me only my bf and her was not involved. not easy trying to find someone whos into poly

@ bifag, that sounds like an awesome concept for a movie. I agree with you that as long as everyone loved each other equally it could probably work.

@Ladytiger, cool that you have found a set up that is working, I like the notion you have of you in the center and each of the others only dating you. I feel like there would be less drama that way. And you're right it would be super hard to find someone to agree to that set up. Another possibility is maybe 2 bi married females could date.

Im married and I am dating women. I had my first date with a new lady this past week. She seemed nice...and she is also married. I will have to see how it goes....you just never know

reply #36,

i wouldnt date a married chick so much baggage, drama and a waste of time. however, i have had plenty of married bi women contact me all of them were so flakey, nothing but lies after lies they were not fair to me. i had one bi married woman told me me and her were gonna get together. thats good right? well, so i thought. she said later on, that her hubby needed to be involve that i needed to keep his ass company, be his gf, etc i said fuck that that was NOT OUR AGREEMENT. she claimed she said that to me before which she didnt.

i couldnt deal with it, got rid of her and every time a married bi girl contacted me, i blocked them. no married chicks too much drama too many ppl. i just want a single girl for me and me only nobody else.

when i was dating my gf, yea it was easier it was less drama until she screwed me over. other married bi women didnt want any kind agreements whatsoever telling i need to go with the flow.....really?

I am poly I have a husband and a girlfriend.

I am new I am poly and have a husband and a gf. This is my first gf for me and this is very hard and confusing for me.

I am new to this ...... I have a husband and gf. And find it very hard and confusing.

I've been living happily polyamorously for a good 20 years now, in probably every combination you can name at one point or another. :)

Just created a new group for those interested. :)

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/polyamory2

i saw this topic in the lesbian group which was funny most of them complained about the poly lifestyle. i saw on a group about poly lgbt and okcupid.com has plenty of lesbians who do poly. some were fine with it but wasnt for them which is fine too the ones who judged have never done it so they have no right to make any kind of statement.