It sounds like she is just trying to push your buttons. For whatever reason -- to get her way, to win an argument. She knows this is the one thing to get next to you. If it were not this subject, it would be something else.

On the rare occasion that I get called "crazy" over here, I just agree. Yep, I am crazy and you would do well to remember it. It takes alot of the power out of the insult.

I am sorry you are hurt. Try to find a way to take that power from her, to hurt you. You are being bullied.

Love. MK.

I just wanted to thank everyone who responded coming from my heart it really means a lot. Some days it feel like its them against us......I did not choose this illness and I had no control before I sought out help.I am very luck to have found this forum. THANK YOU!

You are so right.. words can hurt more then most other things can Those we care about can devastate us with their cruelty and they can never be taken back.. forgiven yes but never taken back
Sorry you were so hurt..x

I can literally feel the pain yes, these are hurtful words. I dont know about you, but because of BP I do often question my rationale even when I know Im logical double, triple checking, which becomes cumbersome, even agonizing at times.

When others justify their own transgressions with our irrationality its just a very low blow and we make easy targets. Hope you will find solace in knowing that she is wrong. Peace.
Anna

I'm familiar with the term off your meds. I read it doesn't literally mean off one's meds. It means "acting crazy" to use the vernacular.
But the fact is most people who "act crazy" are on meds or should be.
Its confusing to me. It sounds like she really hurt you.
Words can really hurt. I wouldn't blame you if you were the one who instigated divorce proceedings. OTOH no idea if you did.

TML,
My STBX has said the same things to me. I was the one that realized something was wrong with me so I started seeing a therapist. I wanted to work on me and our relationship.

Perfect-- 'hurting people, hurt people' so true. Thank you Joyce Meyer!!!

'People cant make you feel inferior without your consent'- Eleonor Roosevelt

It is sad when people use anything against another human being, like we are all perfect right? I would feel good that at least you were trying to put effort out not only for yourself buy for your marriage. My husband uses that against me sometimes and yes it strickes a nerve. I wish you well being and at least keep working on your own jealth if nothing else.

My daughter lives with me and she says similar things and worse to me at times. My ex husband used to call me crazy all the time pre diagnosis and she seems to feel it is her duty to take up where he left off.

Ex spouses can be especially nasty. I feel for you.

Our spouses really know how to push our buttons. I'm sorry that she went for the jugular. Peace.

If the power of one look, towards us or not, can put us into the hospital. One word, which is more powerful than a look, can devastate a whole town of us.

My ex used to do the same thing until I stopped talking to her. She finally got a hold of me and asked why I am avoiding her. I told her it is because she is selfish and for some reason she feels the need to pick on me. Now when she contacts me she says nothing about my illness and it has been uplifting to hear her voice again. It did take a lot of time and constructive explanation on my part to get her to see and I did most of it via email. But some people will never let go so we have too. Yer in my thoughts man keep yer chin up where it belongs eh :)

TML67, I'm sorry she did that to you. That is really fucked up. I guess that's why she's your ex...yikes.

You get hurt I get mad.lol When my younger brother lived with us and I'd be bitchy he'd say..did you take your meds? Well that was like waving a red flag at a bull. I just go into a rage, I know I'm bitchy so piss off and let me alone till it passes and we know it will.
It is ignorance of our condition that makes people say these things that and they know it hurts, she was being a bag let it go my friend remember where it is coming from and that may be part of the reason she is an ex no compassion in that woman at all.
Hugs and let it go, we only hurt ourselves by holding on to the hurt.