i do not believe in marriage. ever.

They say opposites attract, and it was true for my DH and I but now 10 years after we said I do the ONLY thing we seem to have in common is the kids and the bills. How do you reconnect if you have nothing in common? I think it\'s important to make sure you are still connecting with your spouse. But that doesn\'t mean you have to spend every minute together. But do talk.

i don\'t think that any one person can be anyone\'s everything.

Smilee I remember my mom saying something like that, also that people change.

Count your blessing; you get to live longer because you are married.

I\'m with #33 comment....I believe if two people are meant to be together, they do not need a legal document to bind them together....Each person knows how he/she feels about eachother, and should never be taken for granted....If someone wants out, you are free to go....no headaches involved...well less anyhow....If your true soulmate stays with you without a legal document through thick and thin....then it is true love....

unappealing, personally. See, I always thought the arrangement Mia Farrow & Woody Allen had in their marriage was just The Marriage Ideal..they kept separate apartments on opposite sides of Central Park in NYC..so I guess y\'know, they could wave to their spouse now & then & all would be well. How wrong I was. *sigh*

I was lucky enough to find my soul mate at 16. We married when I was 20. We shared everything. I thought it was great until he got too controlling. We never broke up once until we were married for 2 years. Then we separated for 2 months and got back together and had a son. We divorced when my son was two due to my illness.

I believe couples should be constantly involved in each others lives.

I miss my husband and my son.

"Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction." Antoine de Saint-Exupry

course, if your spouse is easy on the eyes, it doesn\'t hurt to sneak a peek back n\' forth now n\' then ::lol::

xoxxooxo,

beep (10+ yrs and still besotted)

I think an anecdote works well here, as well as a discussion I had with my counsellor. First, I heard my wife answer a pohne call last night. It was a long distance phone call from a precious friend of hers.
Now, the complication. . . . A special needs kid was with us. What I did, instead of blaming my wife for being on the phone. That is what it is all about, is allowing the other person their needs, consider them as important a player in your relationship. I believe, if your heart is behind you, then you will have a successful life.
Finally I once heard from my consellor what a healthy relationship is reguarding time. He said, there has been a study (I forgot who), that makes multiple models work. So, consider the relationship as the most important (at least earthly) element in your life, and that love discovers how your relationship works.
If there is something that is difficult for you to understand here, contact me and I will help explain myself. I will always try to help you.

--Moah

I think it should be shared to a degree.But you should also have your own seprate things as well.Its the only way you can stay sane.

To be marriage is like two circles over lapping, you share all the things in the middle and are joined but you also have your own seperate things for yourself.

Marriage can be kept healthy by keeping a balance. Communication with quality together time and also healthy alone time too.