They need to take breaks from each other and have somewhat of separate lives. Or they will go crazy and just kill each other.

i\'d bet that yr H has abandonment issues. these will, if unaddressed, rot yr relationship. it will turn yr H in to something he is not - yr keeper - & you into something you are not - trapped. i\'m sure that neither of you want that. so - easy solution, address his abandonment issues!

so far as marriage is concerned, you first have to have a healthy relationship - & you have to be willing to be utterly honest in the attempt to maintain the health of that relationship - hence, talk about abandonment issues (in yr case).

Marriage used to be one thing to me: scary

Now I\'m more relaxed about the option.
No, I don\'t think it should be being in each other\'s face 24/7. In fact I think some space is important to keep the heart growing fonder.

I think they should be tush on mush 24/7

tush on mush?

is that like - sitting on yr oatmeal?

I think there should be a time to be together and a time to be free to be alone. People who think otherwise are too possessive and jealous.
I don\'t want to hang on to my mate all the time. Sometimes I wish my spouse would understand this. Doesn\'t the bible say There\'s a time to embrace and a time to be far from embraces. We need time to be a unique individual.

im very happily married. my hubby is awesome. but everybody needs their space. and their own thing.

i think being constantly involved in every aspect of each other\'s life is a bit much. even tho i can be a bit clingy at times. i still give hubby his space.

my marriage ended up in separate lives for good

Hey Jan, am happy divorcee,too

Just to answer the title question....

It is a double funeral where the two being remembered, live....

I think you should be pretty involved in each other\'s lives but still have things you enjoy on your own. You mate may have separation issues, abandonment issues, self esteem issues, etc. People have different relationship styles and none of them are bad (excluding abuse, of course)

There MUST be autonomy in any relationship. We have to have some time to ourselves, for ourselves. You are correct! I agree with you completely. It\'s only normal and healthy to have your own interests and your own space.

2 halves do not make a whole person.
2 halves ea having thier own unresolved issues - will 1 farts and other anounces what he or she had ate behind thier back.
Healthy people have thier own life to live and will schedule in time to spend w thier companion.
The in your face up your butt marriage works for disfunk people.

constantly involved in every aspect of your mates life

Spending time apart is healthy but we are not healthy people! we have extra issues and needs so each relationship works differently and you cant base your relationship on what works for someone else!