I can't help but be aware that if my cousin/aunt (they're exactly fucking the same personality-wise, like a carbon-copy, except my aunt's much nicer to me) read that, they'd roll their eyes and blame me, and just, feel a real /visceral disgust/ that I'm so self-pitying, that my frustration and suffering doesn't drive me to go, "Circumstances and practicality be damned! This is the day I apply for 20 jobs so that I can move out ASAP because logically when you can't take it anymore, you do something about it!"

And so this is where I say that there are two types of people. A simple way of looking at this would be summarized by the phrase, "There are sit-and-stew-er's and get-up-and-do-er's."

The philosophical (or pseudo-philosophical really, lmao) way of looking at this, is that, I can see J's (cousin's) point. I really do.

I wish I had the attitude of, "I'm going to take charge and do something about this, even if my chances of success are slim."

And I can see what's irritating about a person who needlessly over-analyzes and cries over a situation and feels sorry for themselves, without actually making changes to that situation, however insignificant those changes might seem. It's the principle of being the sort who does something with/about their life, even if against all odds.

She's the kinda person who likes busy people who are successful and motivated and can go out to bars and concerts and on dates with her, and she doesn't see the point in wasting time with people who don't actually do much with their lives.

But it seems like....

So to paint a visual example, suppose you have a pond, right? People who admittedly "Prefer optimistic, motivated, busy people" will have the tendency to admire the kind of person who reacts to their circumstances in a positive, progressive sort of way. Most people would call that a strong person.

And so the stimulus and obstacles and events of daily life are the pond, right? And the stronger people will do anything necessary to keep themselves afloat and on top of things.

But like an iceberg, the ones comfortably atop are kind of a minority, and much of life exists within the murky waters. There is complexity there, and diversity, and there are a lot of stories.

But so many people dismiss whatever isn't on the surface- and that's literally shallow, isn't it?

I mean. I guess it isn't wrong. I'm not making this post to tell you that it's wrong to admire successful people who pulled themselves up by their own bootstraps, because those people do deserve admiration and praise, etc.

I just..... I'm the other type. I don't think it's right how a lot of people are dismissive towards people because their lifestyle doesn't seem, Idk, respectable or interesting or whatever. It's kind of disrespectful to human life itself for human value to be conditional. /:

Every person has their own unique little inner universe, and being of the mindset that only those who are doing and succeeding are the ones worth noting is what breeds racism and sexism and xenophobia, and especially ableism.

I'm not saying I'm a victim of any of those things either, I'm not. Except for sometimes ableism, particularly towards people stereotyping my mental illnesses (and weirdly................. fetishizing? Like how some people think casually calling themselves bipolar is trendy or cute or funny or w/e).

I guess this is just a think piece moreso than me telling you anything in particular. Take of it what you will, I guess. But also, what are your thoughts? Do you think it's okay to think like this, that the logic of paying attention to effort over stubbornness is a good concept? Or that it's understandable in theory, but in execution, often winds up being misused and misunderstood, and used to de-value some groups and castes within society?