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Tell him it will f**k up the dishwasher if he keeps using it.

Get rid of one of them...him or the dishwasher...j/k I have OCD and things like that make me Lose My Mind too. I would run the dishwasher 3 or 4 times with white vinegar. That's what I use. Then rewash the dishes. Then smash one over hubby's head.

Thank you. Reply # 2 you really helped me a lot. That's just what I neede, I am just too anxious right now, I posted this up because I still felt like I wasn't listened to or respected by my husband. The cleaner he used was the works tub and shower cleaner, and I am pretty sure you're not supposed to use it in dishwashers. I will tell him that today that if he keeps using it--that it will mess with the drain system and make the water have extra chemicals in it, that it really shouldn't. If he doesn't stop using it, I am going to threaten to use paper plates again. That really helped me a lot Denise, thanks for your support. Also, reply #1 If I asked for someone to reply interesting to my post, I would have went elsewhere. Thanks for the advice that I didn't get. Thanks a heap, it really helped j/k!

Princess

Thanks for your support halter. I am going to make him use white vinegar and see how that helps. I am going to get some of it at the store today. I am sure my mom will help me with the fight against my husband as well. I am also sure she'll get me the vinegar for me as well.

Thanks Halter,
Princess

I told him that it would fuck it up and even had the advice from a walmart personnel who was also in the vinegar isle when I had got the vinegar. He was the one who said are you the one who inquired about glisten earlier? I said, yeah, I was. He's like we don't carry it, but I always see it on TV advertised. I found out online that you're supposed to use a whole gallon of white vinegar or you could use two cups of citric powder. Thanks a whole lot for all of your inquiries! I am going to try both citric acid and white vinegar as well! I hope at least one of them works.
Princess

some suggestions::

call an appliance repair or sales place (preferably one that repairs or sells your brand of dishwasher) and aske them -- as well as what he should use. If you have an owner's manual, it may say in there...your concerns are well founded, as bathroom cleaner is obviously not intended for surfaces that may come in contact with consumtion.
I can't remember the name of the stuff, but I can remember a product sold on TV that you can run through your coffee maker, dip your shower head in it, etc. and it is perfectly safe.

This is a prime example of one of my biggest complaints -- and generally speaking I think this happens most often with men treating women this way, although it certainly does happen the other way around, too. But when someone is emotionally vulnerable, we seem to attract the "blind blamers" who have not a wit of common sense, do potentially if not outright dangerous things like this, and blame it on the person who is emotionally weak. Of COURSE that is going to blow your top!!!!

People like your husband, in my opinion, are both emotioally and rationally detatched --- probably to the degree that their counterparts, like you and I, are wounded and emotionally raw and over sensitive. I suspect that is why we are attracted to them. For the life of me, I don't know how to break free from and overcome this obstacle, when I never seem to be able to heal!!! ARRRGGGHHHH!!!!

But I think, being aware of this phenomenon, does help you to be able to be more objective when your husband acts like a jerk, and not let him get to you.

When he does that, say your piece, take a deep breath, and go somewhere and scream into a pillow or something. Don't let him get the benifit of seeing you lose it -- that just reinforces his feeling that he is right. THen, seek the information you need to find the right answer to whatever the problem is --- and all the while, if you can manage it, realize you might be wrong. That will help you not blow your cool.

Hope something there makes sense and helps!!!

Get to the diswasher before he does. Vinegar is gret for getting out smells and cleans well. It is a natural cleaner. I use it in my coffe pot to clean it. I also use it on my hardwood floors to bring back the shine.Vinegar is good for a multitude of problems. I hope you all get this worked out. Hugs

Denise, good one, and Halter....I am laughing so hard my stomach is hurting!!!!!!

Seriously, I agree with the white vinegar approach...

Princess, if anybody can understand how things like that can get to you, honey, I can relate to your plight. I can get all discombobulated, but I see your point. It would scare me to death if somebody used that in my dishwasher. So you are right, but still, try to relax a little. You have every right to be concerned, but don't let it get your blood pressure up. That doesn't help. Now if I could just learn to take my own advice, LOL!

give him a dish, a glass, knife, fork and spoon and tell him to use them for his next shower.

Princess,

Didn't he do this a couple of months ago?

Breath deeply and choose your battles. Some are worth a fight and some are not.

Get over it
obay your husband
try to make him happy
think thought s like what can I do to make him like me more
OkOK I know thats allot of bs but hey A guy that likes to do the dishes thats pretty cool
My wife thinks she has a magic sink thats where she puts her dishes usually dirty and then finds them put up and clean the next morn

When strange soaps and disinfectants are used in a dishwasher they clog the jets. Then you end up paying someone to possibly unclog the jets or replace them.

It will also mess up the water cycle system. Tell your brillant husband that if you need a few bucks for some generic dish machine soap I will give it to you. We will just pass it through the monitors when we are very manic.

lol unh! Good one! That actually did make me laugh! But, I really wanted advice. Sorry about getting upset earlier, I am beginning to loooosee my mind! I haven't yet had my night meds, but it's not time for me to sleep either. My husband is also being an insensitve asshole again. Denise, thanks for the advice, and halter, that was funny too! I am sorry for upsetting you Unh. That made me laugh, and I wanted to thank you for it! Starfish what you said was real helpful. I think I am going to sneak and see if I can find the instruction manual and read it alone and see if I have any amo against him! Yes, he did Daisy, but somone brought up the post, which is quite all right! I love getting responses anyway. night, that's what my husband tells me, that I should choose my battles. But, he's an asshole. Enough said about that. Sorry. lol magic sink! nice one. I don't want to suck it up and get over it Matt, my therapist told me that about my depression and disorder, and I fired her. And, I had to pay her 115 out of pocket per session! Isn't that wacked?! To go to her and talk about my problems only to hear her say, Oh, you just have to get over it! That's a bunch of BS! I am not just going to get over it, and my husband can kiss my ass. Simon, I know I tried to tell my husband the same thing. But does he care about me? Uh, should I even ask myself that. I am not feeling very well guys, so please try to be gentle with me. My husband asked me today if I hated him, and that made me a wreck! Sometimes I wish I could just divorce him, change my name, and my look, and move somewhere else! I feel like crap, and I feel like taking my entire bottle of meds again =(