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So I just got a letter in the mail today stating that my child support will be modified down to 0 because my ex has nothing and can't pay it.
Normally I'd say tough shit asshole! But I really have no reason to argue when I get SSI for them(my kids) based on the fact that he doesn't pay it any how. Most of their bills are paid for by milton hershey school any way. That being said I have no grounds to ask him to pay.
Even if I check the disagree box I will be dragged down to dauphin county (One hour away) and I have no solid ground to refuse him. I really literally have no case.
Still part of me wants to be a bitch and check no because he should be made to pay like every other father. Or sit in jail I don't give a shit! But all the kids bills are paid for by the school, so what can I say about it?
This son of a bitch has 5 kids and doesn't pay for any of them. I was hoping he'd die from a drug overdose by now. And here I was thinking I didn't have any emotions for him left! What a surprise I still have hatred! Why because he deserves to rot in jail and he's going to come out smelling like a rose yet again.
It's called consequences and he never seems to have to pay them or face them.
So is checking I agree the right thing to do
or is checking I disagree the right thing to do?
Normally I'd say tough shit asshole! But I really have no reason to argue when I get SSI for them(my kids) based on the fact that he doesn't pay it any how. Most of their bills are paid for by milton hershey school any way. That being said I have no grounds to ask him to pay.
Even if I check the disagree box I will be dragged down to dauphin county (One hour away) and I have no solid ground to refuse him. I really literally have no case.
Still part of me wants to be a bitch and check no because he should be made to pay like every other father. Or sit in jail I don't give a shit! But all the kids bills are paid for by the school, so what can I say about it?
This son of a bitch has 5 kids and doesn't pay for any of them. I was hoping he'd die from a drug overdose by now. And here I was thinking I didn't have any emotions for him left! What a surprise I still have hatred! Why because he deserves to rot in jail and he's going to come out smelling like a rose yet again.
It's called consequences and he never seems to have to pay them or face them.
So is checking I agree the right thing to do
or is checking I disagree the right thing to do?
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
As for checking the box, I don't know. People can't make money sitting in jail. Tough call.....
Maybe there should be work camps for them instead to force them to work and provide.
I understand your anger but I think you need to follow your head and not your heart on this one.
Just my opinion.
i agree.
he's already been to jail, He has a record for shoplifting and drug addiction.
I agree on the work camp thing but right now all we have is jail. It's either that or they get away scott free as per usual.
Bellebelle this is not the first time domestic relations has tried to do this crap to me. Last time however I was on wellfare and wellfare forces domestic relations to make men pay up.
Now I'm not on welfare any more, I have no grounds to make him pay especially when I'm not even paying for much. Actually I don't have to pay for anything if I never wanted to see my kids again.
Any how the only thing I can think of is maybe the SS office will have something to say about it.
in my country a few dollars of their welfare is automatically deducted and sent to the custodial parent.
Perhaps it would be appropriate to compensate Milton Hershey School for supporting the children.
If I were in your shoes, I'd probably check "agree" because I'm not a huge fan of having flakey fathers clogging our corrections facilities. I would write a statement to accompany the form so I could express my true feelings on the matter.
Good luck Door!! I hope you don't fret over this too much.
What I see in your words - is it would not benefit YOU! to create drama, for an asshole he hasn't learned responsibility....
So, taking care of you and your children is the Goal and you mentioned this handled - by you and the school (which you take care of)... you don't need the extra drama and stress...
The opposite of love is not hate - its indifference! ((((BIG HUG))) wishing you heaps of indifference!!!! Don't give him any power or time in your head than you have too!!!!
The school does not need nor accept compensation, it is free to those who qualify and funded by a trustfund created by milton hershey himself.
You see why I'm between a rock and a hard place. If I agree that is pretty much for ever. Not that I'm worried my kids will be in the school till they turn 18 so they will always be taken care of no matter what happens to him or to me.
Now I do still have expenses for them but they are pretty much covered by SSI.
The only thing I'm thinking now is that I force him to sign full custody over to me in exchange for me to agree to him paying 0 support for them. That way he can never again threaten to take them out of the school and run with them.
So if he every gets a job again, you have to find out about it and go for support again through the courts? OMG how hard.
It eats away at your soul and he probably isn't thinking about any of it.. I would work at trying to heal you sweetie.. Take back your power...xo
Your idea to ask your ex to sign over parental rights in exchange for excuse from any financial obligation toward them is brilliant. That's what I'd do and keep moving forward!!