I stand by my previous comment

hey what games did he get you?,lol

I'm sorry Princess....but here is what I heard.....

"You are a leach", "I want a divorce", "here is some dairy queen and a rented game" "get on the stepper", "okay, I forgive you" Is this the story?

He let me rent pinkie pie's party for the DS. It's a girlie pony game.

I am going to try it out for two days and see how much I like it. IF I like it, I am gonna buy it.

Yep. I think he's sorry. I appologized earlier for what I said to him.....And he said he forgave me.....So things are loking better. He only called me that because in his eyes I am not active enough still. But I will never ever be able to drop 60 pounds. He's gotta understand that I am a big girl now. I am not the skinny manic thing he met when he met me. I am now medicated and much more calmer.

okey dokey,if your happy with pinkies pie...

ohhhh, you had the post a couple wks ago where he said he didnd't sign up for a fat person??

Well, i am glad you are feeling better and he was nice to you.

Did he ever apologise for saying that?

I'm glad to hear you are feeling better

nothing wrong with big girls..i love them myself..

you apologized but you say you think he's sorry? Im confused

Princess.. this is someone speaking from the outside looking in... IMHO... you and your husband need to discuss better ways of sharing how you feel... resorting to name calling is not sending the right message.. you said you apologized to him as well... it sounds to me that he wants you to make more effort to get healthy and fit... you had a post on this weeks ago... do you have a parent/child relationship? He was nice to you when you did your ten minutes on the stepper? I think you really need to consider the REAL reason this happened... or you will be posting again I'm sure that he once again treated you badly but you did some exercise and made it all ok again. .. you may not lose all your weight but you could get some off to reach a healthier weight... make a decision to do something every day with this goal, or start preparing for a divorce since this seems to be the dynamic of your relationship... he threatens divorce if you don't lose weight and you want a divorce if he calls you names... sorry if I sound harsh, but I want to point out that you do have the control to change this... ((hugs)) polar

Kind of what I was trying to point out Polarbare, thank you for articulating it so well.........I think the other thing that bothers me is that he hounds you to loose weight and then takes you to Dairy Queen for dinner???? Huh??? 20 min. on the stepper wont burn off a french fry sweetie.....diet is important and although there is nothing wrong with bigger women, unhealthy larger women is not a good thing. You do not have to be heavy your whole life. A little diet change and routing exercise is best.

I agree with polar about the relationship, it isnt very uplifting or edifying at all. Seeing it will help you work toward a healthier marriage and a healthier you. Hugs

I already commented. I still think he's an ass and there seems to be a patteren to his behavior....on here anyway. Sorry.

Shelly actually wrote what I thought after I had posted about dairy queen being a reward for exercise....lol...

Princess... its obvious a reward is something that motivates you... ie ten minute on stepper... he seems to want to give you positive reinforcement in his own way... maybe what you guys should discuss is the rental of a game after a set goal is reached... ie. 2 lbs a week.... choose something that would inspire you to get on the stepper for a set time each day...

Discuss what you BOTH can do to be healthier.... remove fattening food from home... take a healthy cooking class.... have a weight in party weekly to celebrate...

I know with the meds we are on there is weight gain as a side effect... but if you lift weights, you replace the fat with muscle and muscle helps weight loss...a reason guys lose weight faster... what do you have to lose to try and with endorphins you both will be happier and then you will use NICE words to express how you feel... domino effect.... .

If you are not motivated by any of these suggestions, perhaps reminding you that diabetes is possible with overweight... if you can avoid needles daily, wouldn't you try? I do hope you make the right choice.,.., I would love to read a post by princess that says...

Princess lost 2 lbs...4 lbs ..etc,,, I would be the first one to reply... YOU GO GIRL!!! Wouldn't you feel great reading what your cheering section share....

I'm not sure if I shared the link below... it shares a REALISTIC WEIGHT since some websites offer outdated information...

http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm

((hugs)) polar

p..s. you might just want to use the reward system for effort not results.... ie ... twenty or thirty minutes per day for five days... on Friday night a rental of a game ... and an alternative to dairy queen lol... ((hugs)) polar