Yep... I join your pity party... all my friends weigh like 11 pounds and stick to their exercise routines and have real jobs and husbands and babies. I have a dirty house and live on SSDI and medicaid. I can't even get out of bed half the time and last night I ate a whole box of ice cream sandwiches.

Princess, really, honey, this is absolutely silly. I just talked to you about your exercise program and you seemed really up about it. I think since the WII was brought to you for that purpose, you should be concentrating on that and not the games.

If you are going to let "playing" games affect you this much, you need to find another hobby that might get you up and moving. Unless of course you are playing tennis on the WII.....if that is the case you have to have patience. This IS NOT going to happen over night.

I mean everyone beat all my wii fit scores....I am sad and deoressed.....everyone works out more than I do and everyone is in better shape than I am I am classified as obese. My hubby is just overweight and my little one is classified as a healthy weight yet she struggles to play the fit games more than I do....

Princess, this is what you call "disappointment" and "realization". To get depressed over it will not change a thing. You were so excited to have this WII and I think you set your expectations WAY to high, thinking you would just step in and be a pro at it. It is going to take some time and "effort". You cannot let yourself get defeated so easily.

Then lose weight and stop complaining. We all have bipolar here and struggle. Listening to you complaining all the time gets old. Step up to the plate and face the fact of what you need to change in your life and change it. Stop blaming everyone else! Set a goal and lose the weight and the fact is you will feel better.

So hope are you saying that my depression or sadness isn't valid? I am bipolar too. I am not just making it up.

I think what she is saying is that if you want it bad enough Princess, you will get over it and move on to what you truly want.

What you are feeling is sadness and valid, but it doesnt have to completely control your life, that you can bypass.

Sorry, didnt mean to answer for you bphope.

I just think you are classifying "disappointment" with "depression" ....they are two different things. Depression is chemical and more difficult to work through. Disappointment is very manageable if you use positive reinforcement Princess. This is just part of every day life that I would tell my kids to "brush off" and move on. It isnt life threatening.

Princess,
I want you to fight the fight. To pick yourself up off the floor even if you weigh almost 200lbs and beat depression. Beat bipolar, especially for those that have taken their lives because of the illness. Get up every day and know that it is going to stuck, but you do every thing in your power to succeed. Even if success to you is just going to the gym for an hour. Do it. Meds can only do so much. You can do it if you really want to. You are stronger than you think. We have a long life a head of us with many mental health challenges, so face these challenges and you will start to feel better.

The struggle to get better will make 'winning' all the more sweet.

How do you 'win' at wii fit anyway? You're just where you are- you'll get better and if you work at it- you'll be great at it.

Princess, read Micky's thread on mental toughness!!!!!

If only I was that 135lb manic chick that the hubby met when he met me......he's spoiled me......when I got depressed once he picked up my life and did everything for me including all the cooking and the cleaning........he now regrets doing so. He should have been supportive but he shouldn't have tried to take over my life like that. I guess he just wanted to be the supportive hubby......I don't think all my obesity is medicine caused. I think it's just being spoiled to death.....I now cook and clean myself but mind you doing so is no picnic. I guess I should get off my ass and try harder to beat everyone's scores....

Here is a link that might help you!!!!!!!!!!!!!


http://www.mascsa.psu.edu/dave/Mental-Toughness.pdf

Take responsibility for your own actions.....this is not about your husband.

Getting off your ass does NOT mean killing yourself to beat them, it means working a little each day to get there.

Focus on the baby steps, NOT the "big picture"

Focus on your purpose NOT all the reasons you probably "can" do something.

Find some Choices affirmations or positive affirmations to get you where you want to go.

Stop giving in to "Defeat", it will take you nowhere.

OOps, meant "Focus on your purpose not all the reasons you Can"t do something.