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Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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Emotions that will make a t-doc say oh shit!

BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
Went to the t-doc today, and although she gave me good advice, which led me to get relax with surf and sea today a three disc set that my husband got me which was only 5.88. Wow, I can't believe how cheap three hours of music is! Then again, relaxation music isn't high in demand, so the price for it would be a little lower. I do believe that the music helps. I think I will tell her that next. But, when confronted with my deep sensitivity I feel when threatened or hurt by others my ole man told me he couldn't deal with my emotional rollercoaster anymore yesterday and that hurt me really bad. Instead of suggesting that he change what he says or me suggesting, she says that I should change myself. Thing is I told her I try to tell him things hurt me, and it's like he just doesn't care or seem to want to understand how I feel when the stress level that he has inside his own head makes him not able to care about his words and how they affect me. She says to the comment about me getting out more and dealing with how cruel others can be, and how highly sensitive I am. "Let's just face it, not everyone out there is going to be nice, there are some nasty people out there. Sometimes you have to just face it." Sometimes you have to just face it? omg! She must not have read my signals good today! I wasn't washed. (I was so tired I slept instead of groomed.) I felt so emotionally drained. I mentioned about how my meds didn't give me any release at night, and I might need to switch, and I got you should do more things during the day, and get active more. I bipolar as I am try really hard! I went swimming for a few hours, and it drained me so much I needed a five hour nap to regroup! I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like my illness is taking over me, and I just don't know how to deal. I hope by venting, at least my emotions will be released, or maybe I need a new therapist! I think that some therapists need to specialize in certain areas. I think there should be therapists out there who specialize in BP Disorder. Am I wrong for thinking this way??
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It is no different than people with anger issues. Just as people need to get their anger under control so do other emotions. Anger is not the only emotion that can be taken to extremes. We need to recognize ALL our trigers and our reactions to them. Whether you hirhg sensitization leads you to cry profusely or drives you to a deep rage neither is healthy if taken to extreme. I think that is the point.
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No you vent girl, I don't do therapists, the amount of money I have paid them I could have become one myself. I got my hubby and mum to go to see my Psych with me, to help me, so they passify me not antaganise me. I can be a bitch mole troll from hell, if people allow me, or if I allow myself. It's all about control. Take a breath before you react, and lash out, to see if it is really worth it, and what goo is going to become of it if i do. Call it cause and effect.
Things always seem worse than they are when you are rundown and overwhelmed.
Try not to be to hard on yourself.
BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
Reply 1# Thanks Karl. I do see the point there. I mean I do think she means well. She did mention that she can't work on him. If he doesn't want to change, there's nothing she can do about it. She mentioned that all she can do is work on me. I feel she does know her stuff. Maybe I should have mentioned I was highly sensitive today as well. I mentioned my high sensitivity in general. I do use cbt. I do try to retrain, but sometimes I think retraining doesn't always work. I am very thankful for all of you guys on here. I try to retrain and smile more. Every time someone thanks me for something I did, it makes me happier, and I feel much better. Instead of dying a little more inside, I am more joyful. Thanks for bringing me in reality and helping me to reflect Karl. I think I will write about some of my feelings, and try to explore more.

Reply #2 thanks Rosie. I really did need to vent as well, and having someone to listen to always helps me. I will try to internalize the good advice she gave me. Because really, they can only change the people who come for advice and want to change, the people who don't think they need advice, they can't change. You both are helping me to learn to accept that reality.

Thanks
BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
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It certainly sounds that your therapist was way of base today and didn't meet your needs. Doesn't she realize to "just get out there" is a major ordeal to us. I'm not showered today as I chose to clean my boys bathroom and I'm beat. Soon I will be laying on the sofa only able to get up if the kids need something. It is well within your rights to expect a therapist know about bipolar. If this is a trend I would find another. As for your husband it would be so neat if you could go to couples counseling but maybe he won't go.
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Keep on reflectin princess. Sounds like you are doing a good job to me.
As long as you live your life for yourself everything else is gravy.

And yes, making others laugh makes me happy. And when my humor offends others it makes me feel like an arse.
BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
thank you junggl I really didn't think I was completely heard. I don't know if she knows enough about bipolar to be sensitive to me sometimes. I tried to explain my sensitivity then, when I got the advice I did my helplessness face came up and I felt like sometimes that getting outside is all I can handle at the moment, that dealing with people right now is beyond my capabilities. It is enough to realize you have a fear of thinking people are out to get you, and you then combat that fear by going outside and seeing that people do truly care, and that the world is a nice place, but just facing it omg--just going outside and seeing how beautiful the flowers are is just facing it to me. Watering my garden and coming back in is just facing it to me. Wih my deep sensitivity, the best thing I can do for me is stay inside and become a hermit and read and write.
BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
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BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
thank you for the encoragement Karl. It helps =)
BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
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Therapists can help a lot. But as they themselves do not have the illness they can only understand so much. Try to take it for how it is intended. Sometimes a tdoc needs to be blunt to get through. I know that a lot of times subtlety does not work with me. Sometimes I need to take it in the teeth before I understand.
But understanding it is. That is why I believe we all come here. To talk and interact with those that truly understand what it is like. We then take that knowledge to better understand ourselves. It is all a learning process. Our condition evolves as we too evolve. So we will always learn new things about ourselves and our condition.

Ultimately we are the only one that can truly help ourselves.
BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
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I think it's also important to remember that when more than one dx exists it makes symptoms and situations much more comples, for us, and for our treaters.

I have bipolar and ptsd. If I have a ptsd trigger that I can't easily resolve, it sets off the bipolar, if still not pulled under control quickly, I can become a basket case pretty quickly. Fortunately, with the help of a wonderful therapist, I've learned to identify my triggers and early warning signs and am able to avoid most crash and burn situations.
BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
thank you for your thoughts mha that has helped some =)
deleted_user
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My pdoc is Chinese... so, I don't really know what he says! He has a heavy accent, so I just knod (alot) and stare at the floor. I play with his rubik's cube... compliment him on his choice of artwork... dribble spit out of my mouth... and roll my eyes alot. He writes me a new perscription for pills and I'm on my way! I can't relate to my pdoc. It's like the earth revolving around the sun. It isn't going to happen! (The earth revolves around the sun). Anyways, I leave his office as a certifiable fruitnut... and the world continues on.
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