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Advice on disclosing to boss

Sunshinegirl0228
Sunshinegirl0228

so my new therapist is only in the office in Thursday's and every other Sunday. So I had to ask my boss to redo the summer schedule she just finished to allow for me to have Thursday afternoons off work. She asked me if there was anyway to schedule for another day or time and of course I said no. I feel very guilty and like I am inconveniencing my boss and coworkers just so I can see a therapist. But you all know how important it is to have a good therapist and I feel like this on episode is. I know she is professional and I know she will be trustworthy and I know I will grow. 



All ive told my boss was that I had appointments for maintenance of my health which isn't a lie. But I feel I owe my boss a further explanation especially when I ask her for two more afternoons off this month. 


I don't want to tell her I have bipolar but I was thinking of telling her that I have a chronic illness that is currently not causing problems but that I need to see a clinician once a week for maintainance. 



Thoughts and ideas please?

tommymott
tommymott
Don't feel guilty about not disclosing. Keep it to yourself and things will work out fine. In the past I've merely said that I needed to see my doctor.
Rosa
Rosa
Rosa a bit of a big mouth and tend to disclose my medical problems every one. But mehhh im very very impulsive. You owe them nothing hun. You told them what you needed to and your fine. :3
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
I guess my question is why can't you do one of your appointments on Saturday and then only have to take 1 afternoon a month off? Then take the last appt. of the day on Thursday so you didn't have to take much time off. You've not been with this Therapist for very long and you switch quite a bit, which is your prerogative, but what happens if this one doesn't work out and you have to ask her to change again?

Its kind of a strange schedule for a Therapist..what do you do in case of an Emergency, just wait?
I don't know what you do for a living, but they don't have to continualy give you time off.
arfie
arfie
*JUST* so you can see a therapist? *JUST?* Girl, howdy, that's a big self-invalidation. Is that therapy important or isn't it? Either way, there is nothing *justy* about it. Don't diminish your well-being. It is important.

For me, it is entirely too easy to burden folks with way more information than needed when I "disclose" my condition. I try to keep my disclosures to info which is either necessary or requested. I offer up scheduling info (dates and times) to those whose schedules are tied to mine. I answer direct questions as simply and directly as possible and/or comfortable for myself. When no direct questions are asked, I hold my tongue. We all got problems and I, for one, don't want to dedicate my life to listening to them. I don't expect anyone to care more about my problems than I care about theirs.
Sunshinegirl0228
Sunshinegirl0228
This new t works at the hospital in the IOP program three days a week and I believe she is also going to school for her doctorate. So my summer schedule will be consistent and won't change. So taking the every other Saturday would be pointless. As for switching therapist so often, I guess it's a bit like dating. You keep trying different people too you find one you click with.
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