Hi Christine,
I am all too familiar with what your feeling. My wife went to heaven in August of 2015. It still feels like it happened yesterday. It has gotten a little less sharp over these months but the pain I guess will be there for awhile. I haven't found any easy answers yet.
Have you looked into the widow/widowers board. It is really good. Folks there are like here, they have lost their husband or wife. There is a lot of support there also. I have found several sites. That one, the one her and unexpectedly widowed. And there is the widow/widowers of faith site. All no the DS website as support groups. It helps me to check into each one to get advice and support. Mostly I always find someone who is feeling the same way I am and can relate.

Please take care.
Peace, Tim

I am sorry for your loss. This is a good place. Welcome.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I have no idea how I'd fare if I lost my wife, so I'm going to avoid cliches with you. And welcome to the group. We all have our own unique takes on the bereavement process, and will share our experiences with you as you seek your path.

There is a group here for widows and widowers. They are all very experienced at the loss of a spouse. Some have just recently lost a spouse, others a long time ago. Some have moved on and remarried, others have not. So it is a very diverse group, and they will have a lot of "been there, done that" experiences to share with you over this.

Here is a post with more information about that group:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Bereavement/forum/21364247-widows-widowers-partners-please-note

Here is a link to that group:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Widows-Widowers/support-group

You are free to join as many support groups here as you wish! It has been my experience that the more you put into a group, the more you get out of it. So too many groups may spread ones self too thin. But a hand full of groups is no where near that limit of diminishing returns.

Again, welcome to the group, but I am sorry for the reasons that brought you here in the first place.

Hi Christine. I'm Sharon and a community leader in the widows-widower group. I am very sorry for your loss and know personally how devastating this is. I felt my life had died with him and I was lost and afraid. I am glad you found us and hope to hear from you soon. Sharon

christinerossiter: I too lost my husband on March 24th @ 8:14pm to be exact...I feel your pain and your unsureness!! Garry was my "life-mate" ...we would always say to one another that we go at the same time, holding hands, eyes shut and off to sleep and then Heaven would await us. It did not happen like that and I guess thinking one would not go before the other felt like a myth to us! But it is in fact a reality that takes place. This date marks a time and place for me that has forever changed me that is for sure, I just don't want it to destroy who I am so with that being said, I am totally submitting that to My Heavenly Father who is teaching me daily to find the very person my husband loved---ME-- besides my God I had never felt so loved by another than that of my husband...He said he wanted me to be happy and really live life....I am trying to honor that very request!! We will make this journey our own!! God bless and keep you lifted up!

I lost my wife May 23rd and understand exactly how you're feeling. Are you going to counseling?

Hi my name is heart 1980 I lost my heart eight years ago he was everything to me. life is so sad with out him I miss him so much you would think time would make it easy .Take care Linda

The Widows and Widowers board is a very supportive and active board for anyone who has lost a spouse or life mate.... Gentle hugs for all....xo