Bereavement Support Group
Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.
I just lost my mom on the 12th. It was sudden and completely unexpected. A little background my parents had been married for 40 years and my dad is a recent amputee. He is devastated and I am as well. My mom was his full time caretaker and I have pretty much stopped my life to step into the role. I worry about him because he has an artery disease. Ontop of greiving for my mom, who was my best friend and someone I told everything to, I am so worried about my dad and his health I can't imagine going back to my apartment and leaving him here alone.
I am looking forward to being a member of this forum. I am hoping to find some semblance of peace or some advice, this is my first major loss and I feel empty.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
I like to look at things as managing the emotions of bereavement. The idea of phases of grief bother me because that suggests that once I get through a stage I am weak if I regress. For me the reality is that emotions hit in different ways at different times. One thing that we all deal with is the loss of the things that we used to do with the person we lost. For me and my dad, we worked on DIY stuff a lot; helping each other. Every now and then I experience things that dad and I used to do together, so I am not a failure for having these feelings more than once.
It is OK to find new people to fill the void your mother left. Odds are that you will NOT be able to find one person to do all this (your mom was special to you!!!) so spreading the load over multiple relatives is the obvious choice. Perhaps an aunt can help you with an older woman's advice on relationships, a lady at work may become your fashion editor, a cousin may be the one you decompress with after a really lousy day at work.
There is a group here for those of us who are helping care for older relatives. For me, my parents passed rather quickly, but my MIL has been living with us for 4 years now. Her health is mostly good, but she is almost 96, so there are issues. In any event, here is a group that may help you with your issues caring for your father:
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/caring-for-aging-parents
One final note, this site just got a major rework, so a lot of us old timers are still trying to react to this, and our activity level is a bit lower. So it may take you longer to get feedback than it would have a few months ago.
Gentle hugs, and welcome!
I'm glad you found DS... It's really a great site... I'm not sure where you're from there may be some help in the community that you could look into for your Dad??.. I would check out Community Health in your area they'll be well informed as to what's out there... Gentle hug and a blessing...xo
There'll always be a big empty void in my life, and a heart full of hidden tears for dad. However I try to stay strong for mom who needs my care now (she's disabled and blind in one eye). I hide away to grieve then I am better to focus on her care. Sometimes we just sit together in silence and stare at the TV screen not watching. We know we will each find our own way through, and you will too. No one knows the depth of our feelings and we don't have to justify them or our actions to anyone.
Take care of yourself first, then you can be with your dad and comfort each other ...