Bereavement Support Group

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dothework
dothework

I'm new.  My husband committed suicide almost a year ago.  At first I was in so much denial I didn't think I needed counseling.  I've been going to grief therapy and tonight I'm going to go to a Grief Share group.  There isn't any rule book for getting through this, but I definitely agree with my therapist about one thing for sure - when you start to cry, don't shut down.  Cry as much as you can.  You do feel better afterward.  Next time, do the same thing.  and pray 

mlr0853
mlr0853
My heart goes out to you, grieving, questions, what if's....I've lost my birth family to cancer. I don't know your specific pain, I just know the fog, the empty place in my heart, and trying to move past all the emotions. You are so right about releasing the tears, and feeling the feelings as they come. I did find the 'thoughts' had a large place where my feelings were concerned, whether my thoughts were actually "true" or "false based on my emotional state" at the time. Sometimes hard to distinguish, yet an important process for my healing. I would offer to you the book On Death and Dying as a guide and a support for your healing emotions. My best to you. Take care, ML
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Hi and Welcome dothework ... I am so very sorry for your loss... There is nothing at all like suicide and my heart and prayers go out to you... I agree that crying can be so cleansing and cathartic... I have had some wonderful sleeps after a good cry... We have a very supportive Widows and Widowers board on here that may be a help for you... Big hug and a blessing.....xo

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/widows-widowers
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
Although I am very sorry for the reasons that brought you to find us, I am pleased to meet you.

Yes, the grief process is unique to each person, although we share many of the same emotions and issues. I have seen a few people who bottled it up, for different reasons, and for all of them (a small sample, but still, ... ) their healing did not really progress until they let things out. It can be anger, it can be rage, it can be self doubt, a gazillion emotions, but let them come out.

I have found this to be a safe place to vent. We all know how hard it can be, and we don't have any of those "self appointed experts who know all about it even though they never experienced it" people hanging around!

Gentle hugs
Poppies
Poppies
Hi there dothework, I am also new to the forum. I am so sorry for your loss. Letting go and letting the tears fall is valuable advice I think. I have battled to do that. When I start to cry I feel ashamed because I feel I should be strong. I will make a point of letting go next time the tears fall. I am also thinking of going to a griefshare group. Please let us know how yours goes.
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