I don\'t know about crying as a treatment per se, like, spending 20 minutes a day crying, but if I weren\'t able to cry, I would have lost my mind completely many years ago. I was the family crybaby, so I am good at it.
Sometimes people (primarily men) have gotten concerned if they see me \"have a good cry\", one man I know in particular telling me I will get sick if I cry too much. A lot of crying can produce congestion and a headache, so it is good to be able to keep from going overboard. But some instances, I think, like finding out your son just shot himself in the back of the head last night, warrent a lot of crying. Most therapists will tell you it is healthy to have a good cry, and if you want to cry and can\'t, it is a red flag signaling serious trouble.
Sodially, men are brought up to think crying is being a sissy and a weakness. That contributes to their conception that women are showing weakness or instability when they cry. However, the truth is, if you can\'t or don\'t cry when it is appropriate, that is a sign of emotioal blockage. And heaven help the couple who comprise an unstable cryer and an emotionally blocked individual!!
Certainly, if someone cries too easily, or in an inappropriate context, (or doesn\'t cry when it is appropriate to do so) it can be a sign of instability or even mental illness. Or crying can be used as a form of manipulation. With these kinds of associations with crying, no wonder people often feel ashamed, scared, and need to be alone when they want to cry.
Also, a fundamental and basic difference between men and women is, men tend to keep themselves together, to keep their emotions to themselves, and express them physically. Hopefully by playing golf, throwing a baseball with the kids, etc, and not starting an arguement or going to the bar and picking a fight.
Women tend to keep themselves together, but express emotions more readily. They may cry in certain situations where men typically won\'t. The biggest difference is, women express themselves emotionally. If they are sad, they will cry. If they have to hold it in like a man, THAT is what makes them crazy. A man may think a woman has serious problems when he sees her cry a lot, but she is not in the same emotional state a man would be if he were crying for the same reason. Women are more capable of \"falling apart\" and pulling themselves back together again than men. That is how women keep from falling apart permanently. A big mistake men make is trying to keep a woman from crying when she needs to. What a woman needs when she cries is a shoulder to lean on, or a hug. No advice. Or leave her alone if she tells you to.
Even if you are a man, it is still good for you to cry sometimes. It is very cleansing for your soul. If you have to, drive somewhere and be alone. If you hold it all in, it tends to make you irritable and likely to take it out on someone or something and you will regret it.
I don\'t know about you, but I always feel better, like when the rain has just stopped and the air is fresh, after a bout of crying.

I am wondering Dr Paul is this procedure also recommended or even possible for pt with, Lupis, and has it been tried? My daughter has Lupus and, I was told that sometimes Chemo, works with pt with this disease. Thank you so much. Enchantment.

Cryin for me has been the best therapy. When my loved ones died, it seemed all I coukd was cry. Crying seem to release some of the hurt & loss that I felt. After I would give into crying it seemed like I was starting to lose some of that numb feeling you have after something bad happens. The bible says that tears are a language to God and that He bottles them up. To me when he bottles my tears its like he is taking a little bit of my broken heart and mending it. I believe that crying is cleansing to the person who is grieving. I used to not cry,but now I don't hold back anymore. I have found the more that I cried after my mom, son & nephew died, it would be longer in between crying. Each day I can wake up & feel that I have something worth living for. So, the bottom line for me is yes crying is a treatment for any kind of healing of the broken soul.

I still cry a lot. I don't care where I am, if I have to cry I cry. It does make me feel better.

I cry every day, some days less, some days more. My issue was that every time my fiance saw me crying he would run to the medicine cabinet for some anti-depressants or ask if I had been taking them. I finally had to sit him down and explain to him that I didn't need the medicine. My son died, he was only 18 years old, I will miss him every day for the rest of my life and no doubt probably cry every day too. But that it wasn't a reflection on my emotional or mental state it's me (a mom) missing her son, questioning why this happened. Nor was it a reflection of my state of happiness, or lack thereof. I told him what I needed when I cried was for me to hold me in his arms and remind me that Matthew knew how special he was to me, and that Matthew knew how much I loved him. It's helped so much, I haven't been taking the anti-depressants and while I still do cry everyday, I still have control over my emotions. I say cry, cry when you want, wherever you are.

Crying is a wonderful cleansing tool that God has given us for mourning as well as so many other things. I fight it often because sometimes it really messes up my sinuses, but when I let it go and happen when it needs to, there is always relief of the pain afterward.

Beckeroo

I haven't really cried as yet.
A few tears have dripped down my cheeks but i haven't cried.
I don't know that I ever will cry, maybe when my Mum passes, maybe then i will cry for them both.
Right now i can't afford to break down, Mum is very ill with a tumor under her ear, it is cancer and was found 2 days before Dad passed....that could be what is stopping me cry now...knowing that I will be going through all this again for my Mum sooner rather than later.

crying for me has helped me tremendously!!If not for that I probably would of not been able to get through each day!!!

crying til i thought my insides were on the outside has helped, and sometimes i play music to help it along. crying releases stress chemicals, its very efficient way to destress the body. crying is a GOOD thing. wailing, beating the pillow, all of it.

Crying?....has the Ohio River flooded yet? Maybe not, but it should have by now!
Crying does help and it doesn't come as often now after 18 months, but trust me, I have done more than my share of it! I can fall to pieces at any given moment without warning!
And as long as my 14 year old does something new...that means there will always be a "first" for us without her daddy, my husband...and it brings on the tears.
Crying cleanses the soul...and it does help...makes you get past the dark moment just one tear at a time. Kat

After crying, I have a sense of release and peace. I call it getting rid of "grief buildup". Whatever happens, it works.

I tend to distract myself or fun from it when I feel my jaw start to quiver... I think I am afraid to cry or grieve because I'm scared I will keep sinking lower and not be able to get over it. It's been two years and I have hardly cried and I feel like I need to but then I can't. I had SEVERE agoraphobia 12 years ago and terrible panic attacks and my mom was the one who helped me through it after 2 years of the worst of it. Now that my mom is gone I feel like I need to avoid all negative thoughts or feelings in fear I'll go back to the way I was and mom won't be there to help me this time. I'm constantly running from my tears and I feel like I'm going to burst but I'm scared.

I totally broke down in the office one day. No trigger that I'm aware of (except the obvious). I work with mostly men - they looked at me like, "Oh, my God, what do we do with this?" They just left me alone, which was perfect. I recommend being discrete (if you are at work) however, so it doesn't look like you are just trying to bring attention to yourself.

even after 1 year, i still cry. if i couldn't cry, i think that i would have been in a padded room by now. i just cry everytime i got in the car alone to go and from work. i cried just this morning on my way to work. i go to the cemetary and sit next to gavin's grave and cry. it has helped very very much

Cyring has definetley been a release for me. When I can't seem to express to someone what I am feeling then crying tears has helped me tremendously. I cry till I can't cry anymore then I cry again to let it all out. It removes a heavy load when I do.