Hi Nick, I appreciate your honest response! I've actually been washing the bed for so many years now that honestly I don't find it much more burdensome than messing with Goodnites (which requires buying them, keeping them stashed somewhere, and disposing of the wet ones in a discreet way) in most situations. I've learned some tricks and shortcuts that make it a bit easier to manage. If I'm staying away from home or someplace where I can't wash the sheets without someone noticing, then the pullups can definitely be a lifesaver. Also if I have a bad stretch of wetting a lot of nights in a short time period, sometimes pullups are easier (although I used to wash sheets on an every night basis for many years as a kid). Thankfully that hasn't happened for me in awhile though!

Good luck to you, I hope you are able to have some dry nights sometime soon too! :)

Instead of diapers, you can try out Chummie, a bedwetting alarm. I tried it for my daughter and she got cured within 6 weeks.

@Sara364 - We get it. When you suggest a product once, we might believe you had actually used it and been successful. When you suggest it on every single message thread, and say nothing else, it sounds as awful lot like you are a paid spokesperson for the company.

Bedwetting alarms do work for some people. They are not a miracle cure and do not promise instant results for everyone. A complete cure in 6 weeks, while not unheard of, would be quite unusually fast.

Would you care to tell us more about how you came to try this particular alarm, what your experience with it was like, etc.? If not, then if you want to advertise on this board, I suggest you start paying the nominal fee for a place on the right hand side of the page like everyone else, instead of mooching from the support board. Thank you. :)

We handle it like you do in our house. We used to use pullup/goodnights until the last year or two. Our son hates wearing them. I have a more difficult time sleeping because I am worring about if he is sleeping in a wet bed. I will be up at night changing sheets and his clothes if needed. He looks at it like you do...wash sheets, take shower and move on. I think what makes you comfortable works :)

River123, glad to have you here, and it's great to hear that you have taken such a supportive and common-sense approach with your son! I think you are exactly right in that while your son's bedwetting is painful and stressful for you as a parent, it is even more so for him as the one who is personally going through it.

I hope you don't lose too much sleep over whether his sheets are wet during the night. If they are and it bothers him, he is old enough that he can either help with the clean-up himself or let you know about it. One good "trick" (not sure if you would have seen it mentioned here or not) is to make the bed in two full layers with a waterproof sheet in between. That way if he wakes up and the bed is wet, he can just tear off the top layer (everything down to the first waterproof sheet), change and have a ready-made dry bed to crawl back into, and then deal with the mess in the morning. At 13, he definitely doesn't need your help to strip the bed or put dry clothes on himself if he wakes up during the night, and he may actually begin to prefer the privacy of doing it by himself. For a change of wet clothes in the middle of the night, wiping his private area with a damp washcloth is good enough so that he's not bringing traces of urine with him into his clean pj's or bedsheets when he goes back to bed afterwards.

If the bed is wet but doesn't wake him up, there's no harm there either - that was how I was for years and I never had a rash or any other problems; just make sure he takes a shower or rinses off in the bathtub in the morning so he is completely clean before he gets dressed for the day. If anything, being in a bed with wet sheets that is open to the air is less likely to cause a rash than wearing something that will hold the urine concentrated close to his body for a long period of time (especially plastic pants or plastic-lined diapers - they don't call it "diaper rash" for nothing!).

Good luck to both of you, and I hope he is able to start outgrowing this soon! In the meantime, please feel free to contact me or post more here if you have any other questions or concerns.

Having a wetter in the home, I noticted once he got over the intial ebarresssment of diapers and plastic pants, what a peaceful, worry free sleep it is, instead of always worrying about gettin the bed ruined, one can even feel free to spend the night someplace without that fear in the back of the mind. A good nights sleep is so imporatnt in ones life.

When I was a kid my stepsister was a bed wetter. She didn't wear protection.Her room was smelly and nasty. Some time later she started to wear Staydry Panties one of the first diaper pants for older kids. Soon her room was no longer smelly and she didn't mind being in them. I on the other hand used cloth diapers and plastic panties from the start of my wetting. My room never smelled and no one knew about my issue. We did not live in the same home and she never knew I was a wetter too, until many years later.

Bob103, since we're sharing personal experiences, my experience was just the opposite of your stepsister's - I never used protection growing up and my room was never smelly or nasty. I had a waterproof plastic sheet on the bed, and each morning, immediately threw my wet sheets and clothing in the wash and wiped down the plastic sheet with a warm wet washcloth. Then I would immediately take a bath or shower to get myself cleaned up. (Today they make disinfecting wipes that would work even better for that last purpose.) As long as everything was cleaned up promptly, there was never any residual smell. Just my experience, for what it's worth. :)

Hi Midnight77,

I prefer a mattress protector over diapers myself. Spent most of my life sleeping on one (I suffer from Primary Enuresis). However, my wife can't stand the feeling of plastic under the bedding so I've switched to diapers.

I find that a vinyl sheet provides more protection to my mattress as I still haven't found a diaper that doesn't leak at least some of the time.

Cheers!

DBC, have you tried a quilted waterproof mattress pad with cloth on the outside and the waterproof layer on the inside? They're a bit pricey ($50-ish) but I've used one for years now, and it's almost impossible to tell the difference between it and a regular mattress pad. I still have them on all the beds in my house, including the guest bed, and nobody has ever commented on it, nor have I felt any need to stop using it even though I've hardly wet the bed at all in the last year or so.

Your wife may still be more comfortable with you wearing protection, and that's certainly a valid concern, but mattress protectors have improved a lot since we were kids, at least!

I hate to wake up in a puddle with my pajamas soaked. Wet diapers are a lot more comfortable. Babies always wet at night and my guess is they don't like wet pajamas either.

I remember so well how frustrating and helpless I felt to help my son stop wetting the bed. He wet every single night until he was 8 years old. He just used pull ups when he was younger. I kept a no big deal attitude. When he reached age 8 the bedwetting began to lower his self esteem. He worried that his friends would find out and he want to go to sleepovers. So I talked with him about using a bedwetting alarm and we read the book Prince Bravery and Grace-Attack of the Wet Knights. He wanted to try the alarm. I purchased the malem with alarm and vibration. He slept right through it at first -which is typical of a child who wets at night. Typically the childs brain does not recognize the full bladder signal while sleeping. The alarm trains the brain to react to the full bladder signal. So I would wake him. Sometimes several times in one night. But gradually he began to wake by himself. And in less than three months he went from wet every single night to dry every single night. I found a lot of positive information about bedwetting and alarm use at www.braveryandgrace.com
Good luck and God Bless!

Also, I found the alarms and waterproof mattress pads and washable waterproof underwear at this webstore:
http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20
hope it helps!

Well I find that when I was wetting a few times a month that I hated having a wet bed. And so I started wearing diapers. They made my life a lot better. I was not nearly as upset about the wetting. Last night totally reaffirmed my hatred of wet beds. I wore a diaper and I was tired and did not really think about it but I wore one that was not the right capacity for what I drank before bed. Well at 3 am I woke up to a totally soaked bed. I was not happy. I find that I need to use diapers for comfort and it is not going to affect my incontinence either way. I know a lot of you are happy not using them and Good for you. each of us has to find what works best for us. Good luck to everyone

I have been wetting my bed and I don't use diapers. I am trying to find a good cover for the bed. So lots of laundry and a good bed cover is what I need to do.

I only wear diapers and rubber pants when I travel or sleep at someone else's house. With me I found continuously wearing diapers killed what little bladder control I have and although I have never had day issues, after a month or so continuously in diapers at night I would occasionally, not be able to hold it on the way home or something and pee my pants during the day. While I accept my nocturnal enuresis and the fact that at age 26 it is probably with me for like, I refuse to end up 24/7 in diapers if I can help it.