Asperger Syndrome Support Group

Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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alantm 11/02/2010

last year i had never heard of this
asperges

but ive had a few people say that they think im
aspie ?

the main ones were teachers who have delt with it
i know they think it because i look away so much
i get quite emotionaly confused and awful at dates because i dont read signals well at all unless the ques are stupidly large
so i end up dating quite over the top people because i can read the ques .

one of the teacher types used to say i have autistic traits
because of the way i act. everyone seems to think i have a High IQ

and i do get high praise for the way i come up with
invetions visual thinking and my creative efforts
but i really dont feel like im special at all

i just think a lot and keep trying where others will stop
.its like yes anyone can come up with an answer
if you dont stop
.i can obseccs

PS ..(i cant spell but im trying hard)
i do have OCD things that do change after time

i get very fixed on one thing
.i call it light house thinking
i beam on one thing and that thing is everything
.it can even make me ill

posting here to talk about faces or eyes on magazines.
I have trouble with eyes or stares
not sure which

i even turn mags with large faces on the front cover over
because the the stare is to much for me ..
but i dont know if this is just me ?

eye contact is a hard one for me
i dont even know why i have to break it off
.its just hard for me ...

in some ways it would be like looking at someone talking who is nude ....but its not even quite like that

its just a forced feeling to look away
.i just feel the eye contact and its like a count down ,,,
eyes ,eyes ,eyes cant
keep this up !

is this just me ?

deleted_user 11/03/2010

You read young but your profile says you're 104.

The people who are telling you they think you could be aspie - do they lie to you? I mean, can you believe them? Otherwise, why would they say this?

You state that you don't think you're special but then you list all the ways you're different. Just saying.

If you have access to a psychiatrist, you can get a formal diagnosis and then you'll know. Or, you can read a bunch of information on the internet and work it out for yourself. (There is a lot of help available through search engines.)

Why can't you spell? Like, is it an eye focus issue?

alantm 11/03/2010

i put 104 just to be seen as i am ....young or old .
.i am middle age

the people saying i maybe aspie are quite impartial
and dont know each other.. the same thing said about me
by 2 people was quite a shock to hear from 2 places
that are unrelated.

i listed ways i act because i do act in ways that are not quite everyday...im not special at all ..im just a person but
the way people react to me does make me feel like
im not quite the same..ive felt that from about 7 years old .
.i shut down from people a lot .

.ive ran into mental health workers in the past and not done very well out of it ..i dont deal well with that situation...i go silent
ive had abusive issues as well mixed in with my past
so im not to open

as for lists on the web ..i do have a lot of the issues that go with AS but not all.

i have learning issues
and have a few OCD things but im doing well
at removing them.

johnnycake 11/04/2010

A big part of the problem with having AS is dealing with over-stimulation, which especially includes emotional overload. Maintaining eye contact has strong emotional impact. If I was going to make a bet about it, I would bet 5:1 that you have AS, on the basis of the language and content of your post.. I also note as characteristic the difficulties with personal relationships you describe in your journal, along with very low self-esteem. If you want it, I think you have a place here with the others in this forum. You have talents and aspirations, and flaws like every other human. You are still learning to play the cards you were dealt, as are we all. You can get where you want to go, if you just keep trying.

deleted_user 11/04/2010

@johnnycake: well said.

@ the OP: Yeah, what johnnycake said.

alantm 11/05/2010

thanks :)

i felt very scared to post here
very on edge about the idea of this.

emotional overload.. is the perfect way to describe what
happened with a girl i really liked i just went into a melt down?
i had to just cut and run to save myself

but the whole thing just freaked me out in the end and i cant even explian it ..

i ended up feeling a crazy idiot and she was totally lost
and thought i must be mentaly ill
and all i can say is it was like emotional overload.

can anyone get what i meen ? or put into words in a clear way
anything they have had like this

deleted_user 11/05/2010

Hi there!

Don't be afraid to post here. There are many kind people on this forum who can help you understand.

If it helps, the same thing happens with my son every time he's with a girl. That's why he doesn't date but I'm sure he will find someone, someday who will undertand him. Did you see the movie "A Beautiful Mind?" Even though it portrays the life of a schizophrenic, I think the message applies to you and my son as well. If John Nash was able to find somebody, so can you! :-)

deleted_user 11/06/2010

I have a difficult time believing or understanding that I have aspergers and just got tested again. Although I don't have the formal results the tester was speaking in terms of me being an aspie.

My point is this: It's hard to accept as an adult and once discovered then learning the issues and the coping skills is important. It's there and not going away I guess.

So that's my recommendation.

A.

deleted_user 11/08/2010

Unduki's comments about something as trivial as spelling could sure be discouraging for someone new to this forum who is trying to wrestle with finding out about aspergers. Why can't you limit such critical comments to yourself so that others can feel free to share, without fear of being criticized about something as trivial as spelling? Who cares? you still understood the post. If I might have to confront this, I might not join. It does seem like trivial nit-picking.

deleted_user 11/08/2010

Knowing unduki, she was just trying to figure out the actual ballpark age of the guy because we don't give the same advise to an 13 year old that we would give to a 30 year old. Plus getting a bigger picture of what's going on with the dude outside of AS is very helpful.

She wasn't picking on his spelling.

deleted_user 11/08/2010

SigS---perhaps. However, it seems as though she's picking on him, about something that shouldn't matter. the spelling comment was isolated, made by itself, and not in relation to his age at all, as you claim. So, I still believe that this comment was unnecessary, and that it doesn't deserve a defense. However, she does owe alantm an apology. If she meant no harm, she won't mind apologizing.

deleted_user 11/08/2010

atlantm, were you offended that you were asked about your issues with spelling?

deleted_user 11/08/2010

SigS--making excuses, rather than just taking responsibility and doing the right thing? Let's put the poor guy on the hot seat further, rather than just be an adult and apologize??? That pretty much makes up my mind. You're the sort I avoid. The point is that comment WAS unnecessary and not supportive and the adult thing to do would be to apologize without dragging others into it further, which is juvenile, to say the least. No respect. And, seeing how it is so hard for someone here to apologize for something that was unkind and did not need to be said, I will not be joining a group that is NOT kind or supportive.

deleted_user 11/08/2010

NO, its not just you. Many of us can relate. I am so very sorry your spelling got attacked by someone here, esp. after you shared that you are sensitive about this, but do try very hard. This is a common, too, with some aspies, so dont feel bad. feel free to share. Maybe you should also look around for other forums rather than just this one which is open to NTs and aspies. I have found with just a little investigation today, that this site is not as friendly as it purports to be. there are others that have mostly aspies, and the negative comments and criticisms, and other labels and baggage from nts isn't as welcome or tolerated on some other sites as it seems to be here. Hang in there. an official diagnosis is a personal decision. that is up to you and whether or not you feel one is necessary or are you fine with what you know of yourself, and don't feel a need to one. Anyhow, welcome. sorry your spelling got attacked. and there are lots of others of us just like you. Hope the very best for you.---from another aspie.

deleted_user 11/08/2010

alantm---there are many other disorders, syndromes, diagnosis that are similar to aspergers, but are not aspergers. so, if you really want to know, you will have to seek an official diagnosis. It doesn't matter if you trust these other people---- these other people are not qualified to do that or to give you one. you will notice if you do seek an official diagnosis, that even the experts are very careful, and will probably have many tests to determine if you do indeed have aspergers or something else. but, as an officially diagnosed aspie, your symptoms do sound consistent with someone who might have aspergers, but some could be attributed to something else. it is up to you whether or not you want the label and something official. NO, its not just you. you are okay. I can relate to what you wrote.

alantm 11/08/2010

i dont normaly post in groups pages because
they get quite upseting

the whole point of me posting anything here in the first place
is because im not coping well at all
and i do have issues with things so i just wanted to ask
am i alone with this.
i know i may get shot down for even asking these things
.it is all very upseting.i dont mind the comments on spelling
it was just a question ...
.i try hard to make my text as good as i can for people who dont know me...if they know me i relax a bit and let it go as it is.

ive had reall insults about it in the past and i have been made to look an idiot more times than i can cope with ..ive even been ridiculed for not being able to spell my own name at times.

but this isnt the dyslexia group.
im just trying to get some helpful words on the situations i cope with and this is the nearest i can place my reactions to a name
for it.

i really do feel the hole thing has gone really wrong
and i best just get out of here
either way i will have to cope with all this by myself in the end anyway.

thanks for some of the help
while i was here x

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