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Wrote an emotional letter

luvpt08
luvpt08

I finally decided to write a letter to my aunt who has been giving me such a hard time. I mailed it Saturday so I expect her to get it tomorrow. She has been generally nasty to me and interferes with me being able to see and talk to my grandma (who lives with her).  


When I wrote the letter I felt really relieved and like I'd done the right thing. I slept on it before I mailed it at the advice of my therapist. I'm feeling a lot of anxiety now about how she will react to it. I said nothing mean or unkind but did let her know how I was feeling but that I also love her. Any advice on dealing with this? If she does react negatively should I continue to try to make amends? Should I call her or wait for her to contact me? 

utopia
utopia
That is one of those situations where only you know how how she is. I have sisters. One of them get really mad for every little thing. The other one get so depressed when she doesn't have money. They both have to be dealt with in different ways. The one that gets mad for everything I talk to every now and then. I keep it short and simple and always say I love you sis. When she start sending silly messages being ridiculous I step back and say I'm here if you ever want to talk sis. The other is a little more simple to deal with I tell her Everytime you have money pay yourself first and if you don't do so make sure you don't feel sorry for yourself because you made it to where you did not think about you in the long run first. She text me when she feel like she need encouragement because our relationship is understood as loving and supportive. The other one I have to love but keep my distance. You may have to figure out a different approach with your aunt. Some people require a friendly greeting when you talk to them. Like... It smells really good in here. Or I like the way you take care of grandma.
carlyj1202
carlyj1202
It is always a good thing when you sleep on it before sending a message. I have made that mistake so many times. But if you feel that strong about that you should write.

But I want to say that you have to talk... not on e-mail but on the phone and or in person.

I have heard this so often. When you have siblings you should be friends from cradle to grave.
arfie
arfie
You are already following the best advice I have to offer, Luv, with a wisdom and tone I can only admire. May the current wave of anxiety be more of a letting go than an escalation. I don't believe we can let go of a toxic energy without feeling ^it^ as ^it^ departs.

Let the bold move play itself out, Luv. Steadying support while you discover if your current feelings are nothing more than the birth of wisdom.
eli_mom
eli_mom
Hello- I can somehow relate to you in expressing feelings. I can express my feelings more in writing than face to face. If your aunt won’t reply then I think it’s good if you will talk to her through phone or seeing her in person. Try to speak to her gently.

I pray that things will go well with your family. Keep us posted. God bless.
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