I personally haven't been bullied, nor have I seen anyone else get bullied for that matter, I guess I missed it. I don't think people mean to bully here, it's just that being on the internet takes away any context from our words, so peoples' advice might come across as condescending. But if you saw something that you're concerned about you can contact one of the moderators of the site.

That's one way to look at it, but I have seen people who seem to be a jerk on purpose. Like sometimes I'll see someone call another person stupid or a dumbass. And I don't know. I just don't like the fact that people fight on here. I really thought this place was an escape from that negativity and hate.

Its a website for people with problems. There are going to be some reactions.

I found putting such people you speak of on my ignore list helpful because there are more kind and supportive people here at DS.

Inner Peace To All!

I haven't seen anything like that here which is quite surprising, as I've been on multiple internet forums for years and this is the first where I've seen people be pretty supportive and less on the condescending and rude side. However I have not been on this one for long, so maybe I just have missed the negativity of the users or perhaps they're in a different group that I don't frequent.

I have not had no one be mean to me on here. You should not listen to those rude people. You should not let them get to you. There are rude people everywhere you go. Not everyone is a rude person. There are nice people on here. I have talk to a few nice people. Some of them are my best friend.

So far I haven't had anyone be unkind/rude to me here but I think though its can be hurtful and maybe intimidating we need to remember that everyone here has anxiety problems which can lead to low tolerance.
Also remember that someone being unkind to you says more about them and their problems than it does about you and yours.

wishing a great day for everyone.....


alison

I've only seen this once on DS, though I haven't been here for very long (not even a year yet). It was a man who responded to a woman's post and he was really out of line, or so I thought. I simply ignored his post and it seemed others did, too.

I think anytime you have a group of people together online, there is a potential for people to say things in a way which maybe they would not say in real life. Also, depending on how something is worded, it may come off as harsh when the person who wrote it didn't mean for it to be interpreted in such a way.

So we all just do our best, and try to be kind and support each other, and if something comes off as rude or as bullying behavior, either ignore it or perhaps try to discuss it.

I know if I ever respond in a way that comes off as rude or hurtful or anything like that, I do hope someone tells me so I can be aware of it and can work harder to phrase my responses better in the future. Because I would never want my words to be interpreted that way. I'm here to offer support to others just as I appreciate and am grateful for the support I've received.

There is a Rules of Road for everyone to follow, so if someone is being bullied, they can report it.
If you put someone on ignore, that often removes the conflict fast, since your response is to treat yourself with kindness.

In some groups, discussions sometimes lead to misunderstandings, and where name-calling in posts happens, if it is reported, the moderators can help resolve this private message.

I'm glad this group is positive with each other and others in the DS community.