youre not alone in this, please realize that.. Sometimes you can write everything youre feeling and let someone read it as it could be easier than trying to verbally put it into words.. Have you tried a therapist? Or maybe even a pastor/minister. Churches usually have someone you can consult with who will guide you in a good direction. Theres a lot of good tools to help cope with anxiety attacks, such as meditation, prayer, aroma therapy, breathing exercises, thought therapy, I'm sure I'm missing some. There are also over the counter medications and prescription medications meant for panic attacks. Message me if youd like to talk <3

Hello Howmuchlonger. Welcome to the forum. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

Broadening your support network is an excellent first step toward sorting through the ewey, gooey mess of anxiety. As wonderful as it is to have a mother you can at least attempt to talk about ^it^ with (color me envious), mothers make lousy therapists, even when they are fully qualified to therapute patients. It takes a village to live a healthy life. A broader base of experience, ideas and support can make a huge diff.

Welcome aboard. Hope you feel safe to make DS a node in your network.

People that don't have anxiety or are not therapists can't understand it.
It's good that you came here. And talking to a therapist or pastoral
councillor sounds like a good idea. You may also need medication
for a while.

My mother is my best friend and she is the mom in the world and I love her more than words can say but she does not understand my anxiety and it makes her feel frustrated. My husband is the most amazing man I have ever met and I thank God for his strength and support but he also does not understand my anxiety and he also gets very frustrated with me. I have tried everything under the sun over the years to deal with my anxiety. The things I find most helpful are medication (and unfortunately it's a necessity for me), talking to a counsellor or someone who understands what I am going through, and staying busy/moving. Anxiety and panic is fight or flight and sometimes it helps to work off the bad energy. After all of that though, sometimes life is hard and my anxiety is through the roof no matter what I do. At those times (and this is one of those times) I just keep trying to get through it and I remind myself that I won't always feel as terrible as I do right now. Hugs.

I literally feel like you just took everything I have been feeling and typed it up for me to read. it sucks. I am not saying that this is not unfair for us to have to deal with, or that it is easy to get past, because believe me I know it is so debilitating and it hurts, but I just want you to know that I you are not alone and I can really relate to what you are feeling. message me anytime.

I hope you are doing better. Anxiety does come and go but you need to find coping skills, squeezing play doh and exercise works for me. Also photography, dig deeper and get to know yourself too. Also there are foods and drinks that help and supplements. Have you talked to a doctor or psychiatrist? I know klonopin helps me with panic and anxiety

it's so hard to understand anxiety if you haven't experienced it first hand. there have been a few times where i tried to explain my feelings and i just end up sounding silly to someone who doesn't get it.

i would suggest writing your feelings down. maybe you can make it into a little assignment - start with just random notes of how you feel, not even complete sentences. then, go back and read over everything and try to put these thoughts into sentences and be very descriptive. you can go back and "edit" things that don't sound right when your mind is a bit more clear. show it to your mom when you feel comfortable with what you've written.

this kind of thing has also been helpful for me to organize my thoughts when i'm in the middle of an anxiety attack because i can say "okay, my heart is racing, but this is common with anxiety and i'm not going to die or have a heart attack". i can look back and actually see what i've experienced before and know that i got through it that time, so i will get through it this time and any time to come.

it's not easy for anyone to deal with. your mom wants the absolute best for you and i'm sure she is frustrated that she can't help as much as she would like. it's all about teamwork and helping each other understand where you're coming from rather than getting discouraged or upset.

in the meantime, we are all here to support you and listen. we understand <3

I completely understand. I have panic attack disorder and i can just see how much it hurts my mom. I feel like im disappointing her but ive realized that that is just the anxiety distorting my perception. She is not disappointed but she feels helpless becayse she doesnt understand it and doesnt know how to help.
My therapist helped me talk to her and told her that right now, no there isnt much she can do. The only thing i need from her is her support and patience. Maybe try telling that to your mom. Moms want to heal their children overnight but get frustrated with the situation—not you—when they cant.
And as for trying to explain to her how you feel, try writing down your symptoms(maybe even while theyre happening). Let her read it or read it to her. Even if its not all inclusive, it will at least give her an idea.